@Wildchild hi there. thanks for reaching out. when i was just out of high school, i partied hard. loved the feeling of drinking and just being wild... but i also remember feeling really sad at times and lonely. i didn't want to do the things i was doing, but didn't know what to do.
then i crashed into a house while drunk. well, that woke me up. i had a friend who went to AA and she told me she was picking me up and taking me to meetings. she left me no room to say no. i went for a year and that changed my life. i learned a lot about alcohol and just life... people think booze and drugs make life better... that's such a lie, an illusion. yeah, the buzz feels good for a minute...then hell... then remorse, guilt and then ya gotta keep doing it!!! yuck.
so i quit it all. settled down and that was almost 30 years ago. life without that crap isn't always easy, but dealing with it sober is better than dealing with it drunk or high....
and the illusion that happiness is a state you enjoy constantly is just that; an illusion. no one is happy all the time, but you can learn to become happier... and enjoy more happy than sad or chaotic moments.
for me, i started reading personal development books, spiritual books, and watching videos... i figured if i wanted a "good life", it was up to ME to create it... did it go as planned?
no... life rarely goes as planned, but it's been filled with so many awesome moments... fun times..making memories, exploring...
after i raised my kids i didn't know what was fun for me. raising kids was fun.... then they were out of the home and i was sad... so i made a list of what i liked to do. at the time, it wasn't'much. i liked walking, listening to music.. so i went for two walks a day and danced to music... from there i tried other things, painting, woodworking, writing, dancing, and more...
if you have internet, start watching motivational videos on youtube. start reading articles and books each day... for free. that mind of yours... you've got to feed it GOOD food... feed your soul good stuff....
life is a journey... now it's your opportunity to begin a new chapter.
does this help?
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