Heroin Stealing My Daughter’s Life

I am new here. I had not seen my 20 year old daughter in over a year. Not for lack of trying. Her father called me in May to say she is addicted to Heroin and he was bringing her to detox. They sent her to the hospital because they said she was very sick. When I got there, she was temporarily blind and screaming in pain. She had 103 fever. She was diagnosed with Endocarditis. A staph infection was introduced to her blood when shooting up. She had vegetation on both heart valves. The emboli were thrown from her heart to her brain which gave her multiple strokes, collapsed lungs, blood infection, and pain everywhere. She received IV antibiotics for eight weeks round the clock. I stayed in a chair next to her bed for the two months in the hospital. She got better and the doctor’s told her most patients with this don’t make it. She had been doing three grams of heroin a day, smoking crack, cocaine, etc. I would have thought this would have put such a scare into her. She said she doesn’t regret doing it and that when she went to get clean, it was just so she could do heroin again and get a high since she had reached a tolerance. The surgeon said her heart valves are damaged and she needs open heart surgery. She is in Rehab and won’t return my calls. I am worried sick that once she gets out she will use again. They told her if she uses, the infection will return and she may die. She said she isn’t scared to die. I don’t know what to do. I can’t stop crying and everyone is telling me to prepare myself for her death. I can’t. I just can’t. I appreciate anyone’s comments. Thank you.

Wow i am so sorry to hear this,its made me tear up.I will be writing something deeper here soon.Stay Strong and God Bless

Is your daughter 20 year's old right now?3 gram's of heroin a day is enough to kill addicts with tolerances i can't imagine have been reached by the age of 20 year's old.I had a tolerance of just over 2 gram's a day and i nearly died several times,my heart hurts and my mind is spinning trying to figure out some way to help her.First off she NEEDS (SUBOXONE)AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.It will keep her from getting sick from withdrawal and allow her time to physically also it has an ingredient in it that will not allow heroin to get her high anymore.There is some deep trauma here,something happened to her somewhere at sometime that should have never happened,or at least it seems that way to me.I am just passed 6 month's sober and i so wish i could talk to her directly,myself.At this dose with these medical problems something needs to happen immediately before its to late.I devote myself everyday to trying to help anyone,everyone i can to better understand and see,also i try to help them find the good within themselves and i was a person who chased death for20+ year's.By the grace of God and the efforts of other's i am still alive and i am grateful,so i understand her want to give up at this point.She probably feels its to late to change or save her life but she would be WRONG in assuming that.I hope this young lady lives with you and there is a fine line between helping an addicted loved one and enabling their addiction.She NEEDS to be home where she can have a chance to survive and i know that may not be what you want to hear but according to what i've read at this time she needs some stability otherwise she will die on the street's.If you let her live with you she will still use,at that tolerance she has to or the detox will kill her.If she lives under your roof at least you are there incase she hits the floor and that is not fair to you or your husband however this is your daughter and i pray you fight with her,for her life.I have so many emotions going through me right now i must think more and i will no doubt type more but i have to think.SUBOXONE WILL SAVE HER LIFE.......AT THIS TIME IT'S A MUST

Prepare to help save her life not prepare for her death.Do Not give up on your Living Child Without A Fight For Her Life

@Josh111187 @Jai50 @deanokat @Dominica @lonewolves @Cametobelieve0202 Please help me with this one it's very heavy and hard for me.Please.Advise,encourage,explain,support,book's to read,places to turn.I understand the drug but you guy's are better with resources.This young woman is 20 year's old please help me with this.You guy's always do but i tagged you all tonight because this one has me all messed up

Hi @Worriedmother, I’m so sorry that your family is suffering right now. Your daughter may be depressed if she welcomes death, and I hope they are helping her in multiple ways in rehab. I also hope that the sobriety will change her mind about using again when she gets out. Like True Concern said, don’t give up! But also don’t throw your own life away in the process.

She is only 20 years old. She said she tried Suboxone before when she was trying to get clean but it didn’t work. She is trying Methadone. I wish she lived with me but she won’t and is living with her father who doesn’t keep a close eye on her as he is not home very much. She did have trauma when she was 10. I was married to someone else and had no idea what he was doing to her because I was in the hospital. I didn’t find out until two years later, well after we had divorced for other reasons. She thinks I knew but I didn’t. Our relationship is strained because of this.

Thank you so much for helping me with this. I really appreciate it.

It is very hard. My boyfriend says I need to go to counseling to help me deal with this but I am not sure.

Thank you so much for the great advice. I am leting this consume me and think about it constantly. I need to change that to be able to help her.

I understand and I'm so sorry that happened to her.Something I assume to be similar happened to me as well between 4_6 somewhere. And shevlied suboxone does work but eliminate the ability to get high.Methadone is just your first dose of heroin every morning. It will not help it will actually increase the craving for heroin

Ur boyfriend is correct

I wondered about that because she mentioned people still use on it so it kind of defeats the purpose of taking it. She also said there are drug dealers outside the Methadone clinics to sell to people on the way out. She has a lot of anger and will scream and swear at me. She has a problem with lieing her whole life. She said to me once that she knows how to manipulate people to get what she wants. When she was a teenager she lived with me and would hit me, punch me, knock me down, swear at me. She is very destructive and has punched holes in the walls, cabinets, etc. She knows I am afraid of her and she has been arrested once for punching me until I fell in court and they arrested her and took her to Juvie. Nothing helps her with this problem. They say she is bipolar but she refuses to take meds. All through her teen years she has been in and out of psychiatric hospitals. She quit school at 16 and had a baby. She was seeing her daughter but then drugs took over. The father moved to Georgia with her and my daughter doesn’t seem to care. She has such a temper that while in the hospital, she would either be screaming and swearing at me or someone on the phone that people come running in the room to see what happened and she tells them to get the Fxxx out. Every other word is F this and F that. I am not like that and feel I have failed as a mother. She told me that I am the reason she does drugs.

You are not the reason its the trauma shevmay blame that on you but that's neither here nor there we have to get her better first.methadone yes you can still get high on it and many dealer's exchange numbers there so methadone clinics are bad news.I Promise you Suboxone is an opioid antagonist eliminating the sick detox and blocks the ability to get high.I would love to talk to her on here

Her father gave her the phone she had with the people that she did drugs with phone numbers in it. She had forgotten their numbers due to her strokes. I found out she was in contact with these people before going to rehab. I and many others told her she has to break away from these people to stay clean. She just cries and says she needs these people. I am on permanent disability and don’t make much money. I wanted to get a car so I can see her more but financially I can’t right now. She will be living over an hour and a half away when she gets out of rehab. When she hears I can’t get a car, she is going to cut me out of her life. I would still be able to see her a few times a week but I know she won’t be happy with that. I don’t know what to do because then I wouldn’t know what she is doing or be able to help her.