I always dread the holidays, the worst seems to be Christmas. there is just so much stress and I never know what to expect when the day finally comes. This year was incredibly stressful Although my brother, who normally drinks to access, was relatively sober. It was not enough to stop the poor behavior from my parents. i watched my mother try to bait my brother into a disagreement that he caught right off. had he been drunk I am sure the chaos would have been worse. I don't know what to do except remove myself as politely as I can. It tears at you because the day is suppose to be special. It seldom is. i feel like I want to find a job or something that keeps me out of the family on holidays. Any suggestions for a solution?