About 10 years ago, when I first had to kick opiates, I tried going to NA meetings, and while it initially was very helpful, I ended up dealing with such horrible, back-stabbing, gossip-hooked, petty people that I never wanted to go back. I know that one of the first things they recommend to people is to find a sponsor...well I had no problems with these meetings until I was approached by a seemingly harmless woman who offered to be my sponsor. She then introduced me to my "sponsee sisters" who did nothing but spread rumors about me when all I was trying to do was the 'right' thing. I have heard from some people that there is less drama in AA meetings, but seriously, my experience with this group was so bad that I still cringe when I hear some of the 12 step prayers. The worst part of it was all three women (sponsor and two other sponsees) were still using but lying about it, and accusing me of doing the same thing when I was not, and spent more time gossiping than working steps or doing anything helpful or constructive. Now that I am trying to help a friend get clean, she wants to try going to meetings but I do not know what to recommend to her. I don't want to lie to her but I do not want to discourage or scare her off either. I'm sure that my experience was a isolated case. Could anyone offer some advice in this situation? I think perhaps if my friend goes and just asks questions and waits to find the right sponsor (if that is a route she wants to take) it could be very helpful to her.