I hope I don't sound whiny, but it genuinely bothers me. How do you deal with people putting you down when you are trying to get over addictive behavior? Specifically, people who throw your past mistakes in your face, or try to associate a mistake you made under the influence with the kind of person you are? I recently had a "friend" throw things in my face from almost 10 years ago. Needless to say, we aren't friends anymore. I know it sounds cliche, but with someone like that around I don't even need enemies to feel like crap. Matter of fact, "friends" are sometimes worse because they know all the little details. Short of cutting off everyone in your life (I'm not sure if that's always possible if you have mutual friends or have to see this people at work), how do you deal with it when people want to put you down? Do you confront them or just ignore? I would love to say that "I don't care," but um sometimes it still really stings. We are human. Nobody wants to feel put down.