Exhibit A smokes, drinks constantly, eats bad and does not exercise much. Within two years and a half year of meeting this person, I've pushed him to stop smoking (tobacco), to stop drinking alcohol and to *at least* take the stairs up in the apartment building rather than the elevator. This person still smokes weed and does not eat healthy enough nor do much exercise; I know I can't dictate how his life should be, and he sort of grumpily acts like I try to change him too much when I mention that he should try to ease off on the other stuff too (though the other stuff is by no mean TOO unhealthy: he eats homecooked meals and does not smoke this much weed, just a few bong hits over the day). Did you ever have this sort of situation where you're so proud of the step someone took, but still think that ideally, they should take more? Did you push for it? Or did you respect the person's right to his/her own flaws as long as they weren't too harmful? The alcohol and smoking caused real problems, whereas his "poisons" of choice are pretty much harmless -- a bit less to himself as to the people around, but still in no way a big deal, so to say. Thoughts?