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How to help husband

Discussion in 'Helping an Addicted Loved One' started by Toni, Jun 10, 2016.

  1. Toni

    Toni Member

    My husband has over the years had problems with vicodin got treatment did well for years over the last year has been doing pills, snorting meth, and now heroin also drinks. He cant function has said he knows he needs to stop 2 weeks ago stopped detoxed got very ill. Now is angry has used meth again not sure about heroin. His family wants to commit him. He has said if anyone did that would hate them forever, is pushing me and kids away advice?
  2. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Toni... I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's struggles. Addiction is most definitely a family disease and everyone who loves the addict is affected. If your husband truly wants to stop using, I highly recommend that he seek professional help. Stopping on his own, especially with the assortment of substances he's using, can be incredibly difficult...and even dangerous. At the very least, he needs to see an addiction specialist. They can assess his situation and recommend the best next steps for him. That could mean inpatient rehab. Would he be willing and able to do that? I know it would make the detox process much easier for him, because medically supervised detox is designed to keep the patient relatively comfortable while minimizing the withdrawal symptoms.

    I also want to recommend a book for you to read. It's called Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change and it's written specifically for partners and loved ones of people struggling with addiction. It offers great insight into how to best communicate with your loved one, how to help motivate them to want to change, and how to take care of yourself. (That last thing is so incredibly important when you're dealing with a loved one's addiction.) I talk a bit more about that book--and some others--in a blog I wrote not too long ago. You may want to check it out at this link:

    6 Essential Books for Those with an Addicted Loved One

    Loving someone who struggles with addiction is one of the most challenging things someone can do. Just know that you are not alone, and feel free to reach out for support anytime you need to.

    Sending you positive vibes and hugs of hope. And I will keep your husband in my thoughts and prayers.
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