This is a tough situation and will not only test the bonds between parent and child, but the strength between spouses or significant others. I am not sure you could understand this situation, until you go through it (and I hope you never have to). Yet, to have some guideline and rules in place, so everyone involved understand the consequences will help. So many people, think it will never happen to them. When you find out, your child is an addict, I think this is one of the first reactions. No! My child would never experiment with drugs or alcohol, much less become addicted. I know that was my first thought! Then came the sadness, then the guilt, then the blame and these emotions cycled all over again. Eventually, you reach the point of acceptance that "everyone" involved needs to take responsibly. It is taking that step into becoming proactive vs reactive. Believe me, I know this is much easier to say or even understand compared to acting upon. I was not even sure I would share my personal experience on the forum. I have so many other relations and friend dealing with addiction, it is easier for me to talk about it by distancing myself a little bit from the situation. But part of healing, is acceptance. Wondering, if anyone feels comfortable sharing their first emotional reactions and how you dealt with it or are dealing with it?