When the holidays were around I was so focused and concerned about my loved one and allowing them to walk all over me. I allowed them to take the easy way out. I was lost and in denial thinking I couldn’t be an enabler. I love this person and all I wanted to do was help and make sure at the end of the day they were okay. I soon had a reality check when my mothers gold ring went missing. I was devastated and am still so very upset. I allowed a person I love so much take advantage of me. I felt helpless and lost on how to handle my loved ones addiction. I started googling and researching if I actually was an enabler. I never classified myself as one until I came across an article online. It truly opened my eyes to think that I have been enabling my loved one all this time. All this time I thought I was helping but I have been actually killing them slowly. Right now, I can stand with pride to say I have actually helped my love one find treatment. They are 15 days in. I know it is going to be a long and slow road to overcome but I now know I have to stand my ground and be as supportive as possible.