hanging out with what I would call me best friend and a friend of his I met that night **** went wrong. We we drinking. I had about 4 double shots of whiskey before we left a place. I was still cool talking and having a great time. Once we got to my friends place and started playing cards I became a different individual. I said **** his daughter which I could never imagine. I asked for a three some which I wasn’t interested in and I was throwing beer all over the house like some weird party I thought we were enjoying. How do I fix this?
@MsDont hey there. thanks for reaching out. first, apologize to everyone. you drank too much and said and did some things that were not alright. apologize sincerely. i'd really start thinking about my drinking habits. ask yourself some serious questions..... is this how you want your life to go (i doubt it). is this behavior common for you (the over-drinking?) what kind of person do you want to be? this is an opportunity for growth in several areas. good news is you can step up to the plate....and do what is right. does this help?
You are right! I don’t want my life to be this way. I want to drink and have a great time with everyone. Would you forgive someone who behaved this way? The funny thing is I never seen anyone do this. Change into a completely different person when drunk. Why do I do this? I’m truly sad and ashamed. I’m embarrassed. I don’t feel violent. Why am I behaving that way? I need help.
@MsDontwanttothink I would forgive anyone who sincerely apologized to me about something AND was making the effort to not do it again (whatever it was). But if it continued, I'd cut ties. Some say that those who repress their anger tend to become hostile or violent when drunk. Some alcoholics that have progressively gotten worse (higher tolerance over time) tend to become angry a-holes when drunk. There are still many experts doing research on the matter. When I was in college, I partied hard.... and I was abusing alcohol. I found myself getting mean at one point... and that wasn't me. But, inside I just wasn't happy and had never really done any counseling to deal with some crap.... so yeah, too many drinks and that anger came out... Some people end up having to stop drinking entirely. Well, there are those that try to be a "social drinker", and maybe can for a bit, but end up going overboard at some point.... Pay attention to your alcohol intake. If a certain amount makes you an a-hole, don't drink that amount Just have one or two. Find what works for you. If you keep struggling, consider stopping. Get counseling or attend AA or SMART Recovery or educate yourself about it.
During this weekend. I met someone. One of the people I was asking to have the threesome with. We ended up having sex. And I like the guy. I liked the guy before I got drunk. We had sex through the weekend. He does not live where I do. He left that Sunday. We have been talking since then. He hasn’t mentioned my behavior and I just found out the blunt of it last night. How do I apologize to him? What do I say?
TMI (lol) "hey, i drank way too much the other night...and i'm sorry for my behavior." keep it short and simple.
I have done this as well in my younger yrs but I think I can help out with this little bit of advice.... Simply appolize for being a goon but realize as well u may have inner struggle with yourself maybe u feel boring or maybe u must act a certain way in other areas of ur daily life but I wouldn't worry much if it doesn't happen often and try to know ur cutoff limit and even harder yet try to stop at it lol .I hope I helped
Oh boy,i see so many stories i know way to much about from my own past,however i must do my best to help other's with their struggle.First off i know first hand @Dominica is correct when she mentioned suppressed anger comes out.I no longer drink because well i had way to many sililar insane drunk moment's and after year's of lieing to myself that the next time would be different i finally realized I am just one of those people that cannot drink.I took me year's after of studying and remembering bits and pieces to understand the bigger trigger.So basically i could drink beer and function as a non violent non aggressive drunk,but i choose not to as addiction has cost me alot and almost my life at least 3 time's,but i have never had the ability to consume hard alcohol or 4 shots.The hard alcohol actually brings out a violent vicious manic somewhere inside that i absolutely have zero control over.Lord i pray those I've wronged that i can't remember forgive me,but i imagine if you drink still and pay attention to what you drink i would almost beat the harder the alcohol the crazier your actions are.I recommend moderation if you plan to continue to drink.Stay Strong and apologize i think you will be ok but do keep us posted if you have anymore wild weekend's...Like the outburst weekend not the TMI weekend lol.Take care