Al-Anon helped me realize that doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results is a form of insanity. In other words, no matter what I do in continuous communication with the addict that's in denial is futility, and shows me that I'm just as sick as the alcoholic / addict.
I've been a member of Al-Anon for 4 decades, and I still have to practice not being sucked into / trapped / held hostage by alcoholic insanity in relationships. I learned that an addicted provider in a family or in business that uses their financial power / support as an excuse for their abusive behavior is mentally ill. These types commonly play the "victim role" where they're the victim of those that they financially support, which justifies their abusive addictive / alcoholic behavior.
Bottom line, Al-Anon taught me that I must release the alcoholic in my life with love and take care of myself ONLY. How I began to indirectly learn this was via my wife, when I discovered she was attending Al-Anon meetings, because I was the alcoholic abuser. Her "example" of releasing me with love by no longer playing my abusive games began my road of recovery from alcoholism.
Here's a page of links, anyone can participate, some meetings can be zoomed and it's free of charge.
https://www.google.com/search?q=al-anon zoom meetings&oq=Al-Anon&aqs=chrome.3.0j46j0l3j46j0.24714j0j15&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
Last edited: Sep 13, 2020