HELP. My husband and I have been together for 19 years married 16 years. He has always drank and over the years are most vicious fights have included alchohol. He drink before he comes home in the car, he hides the "effendince" but I find them. He is a completely different person as soon as that drink hits his lips! When he's not drink, I love his personality. He's a great father and a very hard worker too! I don't know how to handle it anymore, I'm just tired of it. I can tell as soon as he walks in the door that he has been drinking and that will automatically change my mood and I don't want to be around him. I have tired over and over again talking to him, telling him how it makes me feel but nothing ever changes! I stay home with our girls so he will bring up that he works so much for us all, which he does and provides everything for us, so I feel trapped mentally and emotionally! His mother has had issues as well and on my side my dad and grandfather so I'm so sensitive to this! I do drink but only on occasion and for celebration. I really need guidance.