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Discussion in 'General Substance Abuse Discussion' started by Lizel, Feb 14, 2015.

  1. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    Don't try to run away from your problems, don't start to take drugs and/or drink alcohol.
    Running away from problems is never a solution and as soon as you'll release it then the
    sooner you will face your problems with your head held up high. You have your family there
    for you, and your good mates out that are willing to help you. Don't neglect them, and
    search for help if you're going through a tough time. You have more people around you than
    you think you do, and all of them care about you .
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  2. elles-belles

    elles-belles Community Champion

    This is some great advice! I have to point out though that it isn't as easy as that especially if the problems are so deeply embedded that you are in some denial stage. It is all well and good to say there are people out there willing to help but if you as an individual are not even ready to accept the help then you are just going to end up frustrating yourself and those that are willing to help you!

    What you have just posted makes a lot of sense but really does depend on an individuals character and personality!
  3. jeremy2

    jeremy2 Community Champion

    So, your wife ran away with another man, your beloved girlfriend dumped you for your best friend or sadly, you got fired from your dream job. Your head is spinning from all those crazy thoughts and and all you can think of is, i could use a hard drink now. Reality check; you will still be stressed after consuming those shots of tequila or drowning several bottles of beer. Drugs have never been the solution to our problems, never will be.
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  4. ReadmeByAmy

    ReadmeByAmy Community Champion

    Problems will always be part of our life and there is no way how you can avoid it. There may be simple and hard to solve problems but all of these can have a solution in its proper time and with help of our own self by never giving up and standing by it with courage and strength. With the support and care of our family and love ones we are not alone that is why there is no need to rely on those bad things that will worsen your problems. Always have faith and never lose hope because there will always be a rainbow that will give colors to your life...
  5. Rosyrain

    Rosyrain Community Champion

    I agree with you completely Jeremy2. You may feel good for a little while, but your problems will still be waiting for you when you come back from your high. The best thing to do is find a support system so you can talk about what is bothering you. If you feel uncomfortable sharing, find a group that you don't know anyone in so you will feel less judged. Share openly and things will change.
  6. Matthodge1

    Matthodge1 Community Champion

    This is some extremely helpful advice that you have given, Lizel. I am sure that there is a plethora of people on this board that need to see this thread. Running away from your problems and trying to nurse them with substances is never the right answer.
  7. stariie

    stariie Community Champion

    Since being addicted to alcohol has never been a real issue for me, I would have a drink if all this happened to me (but it would be if my husband ran away...)
    I wouldn't start doing any hard drugs though, like smoking crack or shooting heroin, or anything like that. Of course, if liquor was a problem for me, then drinking would not be an option.
  8. tasha

    tasha Community Listener Community Listener

    Life has all sorts of problems and yea for some it is easy to say" I need a drink" or just one hit! as these are the automatic memory erasers.....well they don't really make you forget the most painful memories as they are always still there while you have the addiction, it just temporarily fixes you and so we think. What we should do is get up, dust ourselves off and say.....nobody is going to get the better of me, wife runs off with another man...that gives you freedom to find someone worthwhile; girlfriend dumped you for your best friend....luckily you found out now that it is not a best friend because that could turn into an enemy down the road; getting fired from your dream job is sad but if it is your dream job then you can try harder and harder to find one even better!!! Drugs and alcohol are not a solution just a temporary mental block that takes away the strength you could have to fight the situation.
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  9. stariie

    stariie Community Champion

    I really like how you not only stated the "problem" that might occur, but the 'solution' to go along with it. I love it.

    Nobody is going to get the better of you the freedom to find someone else who's worth your while... luckily you find out now that this is not your best friend... fired from your dream job, try harder and harder to find one even better.

    I love this. This is just fabulous. I really can't tell you how good it has done my heart to read something like this:D.

    Don't get me wrong, I know to do all of these things, but somehow just reading it from someone else is like 'hearing' someone give you your own personal pep-talk.
  10. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Well, I agree with your post. But facing your own monsters is never that easy. It requires a lot of determination and strong will.
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  11. Lizel

    Lizel Community Champion

    It never is, well that's the sad reality, but if you face your problems you will soon get rid of them.
    If you simply won't face them they will only get bigger and bigger and one day they will just be too big for you to face.
    So, it's important to do it right away without any doubts. Nobody said that life is going to be easy.
  12. tasha

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    Thanks for the good comments and yes it is true we need to stand tall and take charge of our own lives and with every bad situation there is a good one waiting for us to find.
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  13. tasha

    tasha Community Listener Community Listener

    In order to get better and take back your life you have to face the monsters and demons at some stage. This is the only way that you can fully recover and we all have that strength inside of us. We can chose to be victims of our lives or we can stand up and fight so that we have the chance to have a brand new life with all the things that humans deserve; happiness, peace and love. It is up to us!!
  14. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Yes. That's true. But we all have different ways of perceiving life and the problems associated with it. Sometimes, what works for you doesn't work for someone else. It's because we're diverse people and we have different principles/ideas. But yes, no one is going to help you overcome your problems if you're not willing to help yourself. It all starts within oneself.
  15. tasha

    tasha Community Listener Community Listener

    Naturally every one is different and we all face challenges in different ways but if we could start something that we knew was bad and then have the courage to stop and understand that there is a problem, we can face challenges of any kind. For those who cant do things on their own, a support system is needed and this is from friends and loved ones that will be able to fight for you, pick you up, push you to the max when you don't have the strength to do it on your own. There is always a way!!
  16. stariie

    stariie Community Champion

    I'm going through a situation right now that is challenging (although I have a lot going on in my life that is good right now too) and sometimes in the midst of a challenge, it is hard to see your way through it, let alone the benefit of it.
    But I feel that you are right, with every bad situation there is a good one waiting for us to find. I have to implement my knowledge of what to do and keep on going through my challenges.
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  17. tasha

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    A challenge wouldn't be a challenge if it was easy! I hope that you are strong and be confident to know that you will make it through because after the dark there is ALWAYS light!
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  18. stariie

    stariie Community Champion

    Yes, you are right, after the dark there is always light, and many times it's not dark at all, you just think it is. I have learned something else recently though, and that is... there is always something. I mean, really.
    And that is not to say that-- that's a bad thing, I say that to say that I have learned that I just need to keep on working away at doing what I'm doing. Challenges are always around, but this too shall pass. I have to focus on being grateful, and concentrate on what I'm thankful for.
  19. jon

    jon Active Contributor

    Yes, I'm thankful I have learned to deal with the stress in my life better. It's a good thing to have positive ways to deal with depression, so it doesn't keep you down.
  20. May102014

    May102014 Active Contributor

    There are other people admitted that if they have a problem they felt helpless. But that is not the reason to own your problems by not telling to your family it can cause frustrating that can lead to a depression. If you can't tell it to your family, then You can tell it to God. He will listen to you, as He say, according to the Bible in Psalm 55:22 Throw you burden on Jehovah God, And He will sustain you.