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I'm trying to restore my lifes direction

Discussion in 'General Substance Abuse Discussion' started by AngryItalian, Nov 8, 2015.

  1. AngryItalian

    AngryItalian Member

    As some of you who read my post know, I have a gambling problem. At 19 years old I took out a very large loan for my age and now I'm fighting to pay it back as I have gambled it all away. I need to fight myself everyday to keep myself out of the casino or other forms of gambling and I hurt myself very bad financially before gaining the slightest bit of control. I know this community is about substance abuse, the adrenaline at a blackjack table is my drug of choice.

    I am smarter than this, and I can't figure out why I cannot stop completely. I've just recently opened up to my family about this and now I am really trying to make an effort to get everything back under control.
  2. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    An addiction will give the same feelings to the individual, no matter what it is they're addicted to. Its nothing to do with what it is, gambling, alcohol or substance abuse, it's all about controlling the addictive feeling that will make a person stop doing what they're doing.
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  3. oraclemay

    oraclemay Community Champion

    I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. There is nothing worse than having debt over your head and a gambling problem only makes it worse. However, sharing with your family is really a great first step. You cannot go through this alone. You need support. You are able to overcome. I wish you all the best in this situation.
  4. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    You'll need to fight this as you would any other addiction. You have this desire to change and that's great. Any time you are thinking about gambling try to think about how you felt when you lose a lot of money. Embrace that feeling and it might make you think twice about gambling.

    You could also try to find an activity that will initially replace gambling [something you like more than gambling] — something that will keep you busy, away from the Casino.
  5. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    Seeking out counselling and somebody who specialists in this type of addiction could be very beneficial to you. There are many people who have the same addiction as you. Going through financial problems is difficult enough but when you have a gambling problem then it becomes a nightmare. I know many people who have gone down the same trail and they had to get help to deal with it. They couldn't do it on their own. I wish you call the best. I know you want to change and by coming here and admitting it, you know you can do this! Never stop believing in yourself and what you are capable of!
  6. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    Have you tried Gamblers Anonymous groups? They may give you some tips and feedback on how to be able to get some control back in your life. It is just one of the things that you could do, and positive step to fight your addiction. I think this group may really benefit you.
  7. Winterybella

    Winterybella Community Champion

    I think you are doing something right but simply acknowledging you have a problem and opening up about it. Often people don't make any progress because of living in denial. I can't speak as an expert but having identified the problem you now have to take steps to kick the habit.

    I don't know what obtains in your country but if there are Centres for addiction, I'd think you would want to look into enrolling in one of these. Besides that I suggest you find other things to replace this activity and steer clear of any environment is likely to tempt you the act. I know it can't be easy but it's worth trying anything to help yourself. Your life will be restored.
  8. doatk22

    doatk22 Community Champion

    Telling your family was a very smart thing to do. I hope you have some support there and someone who cares enough to hold you accountable for your actions and keep you from casinos. I hope you are able to pay off your debts and get clear of your addiction.
  9. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    Realizing you have a problem is really the first step. I think you have to see gambling as more of a burden and overcoming it as a victory. It seems like the most empowering goal you can have is, getting rid of something that's weighing you down. You can overcome any thing with determination and the right approach. Good luck, you can do this.
  10. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Hello there, @AngryItalian! Welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing. Well, I am sorry to hear about the pain this issue is causing you right now. But yeah, it's good to know that you have finally decided to seek help and support from other people, specially your loved ones. As long as you keep the right mindset, stay focused and strong, I believe you can overcome this gambling problem. Wishing you all the best. Keep us posted.
  11. Adrianna

    Adrianna Community Champion

    Lol really? You could become an professional gambler. I've met people who do it like professionals. A few friends that do this. You can look at it any way you want. I've not really gotten into it myself but I can imagine the rush. You need to make good money to support something like this and just play with a certain amount.
    Some people destroy their lives I suppose with something like this. If you are so smart then you should be able to figure out how to pace yourself. Boundaries, you have to have some boundaries with it. A partner that can pull money aside while you are playing to keep you from going out. Something like this. Gambling if it is done right you can do well and make something good out of it.
  12. irishrose

    irishrose Community Champion

    It can be tough to share your troubles with your family members, however, it is important that you are upfront and honest with loved ones, so that they can help you in any way that they can. It is great of you to seek help from this forum and from loved ones, it is a first step in the right direction. Continue to resist the temptation of gambling. Keep your mind busy with other tasks, such as work, volunteering, and new hobbies or sports. When it becomes too much to bear on your own, there is no shame in seeking help from others.
  13. rcdpink

    rcdpink Active Contributor

    It is quite commendable that you have become so open about your addiction and that you have chosen to not keep this addiction secret and private from your family. I am sure that there are few in the family that will very much be supportive of you in trying to help you to overcome and to become better. My dad also has an addiction problem, but unlike you he doesn't acknowledge it. Acknowledgement is the first part of the process of healing and you have undoubtedly demonstrated that. Keep on turning your mine away from it and pretty soon You will find yourself on the right track.
  14. 6up

    6up Community Champion

    It is possible that you can come back to your normal life, all you have to do is never give up. It seems that you fear failing that is why you think that gambling can make you money to stay a head. Unfortunately that has costed you a lot and you have to repay. Ask your family members if they can help you get out of your situation. Prayers do also help. Join prayer groups so that you can get words of encouragement. I believe that one day you will get through.
  15. LinB

    LinB Senior Contributor

    I am glad that you have made a turn. Nothing worthwhile ever comes without pressure and perseverance. You will make it as long as you acknowledge that you are weak in that area.
  16. LinB

    LinB Senior Contributor

    Yes indeed you definitely need somebody in the family Who can work even in the background telling you to stay in line. Not all family members will be understanding but when you do find those who are supportive please keep them close. You will need them in times of desperation.
  17. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    The fact that you've opened up about it to your family is huge. I think until that point of confessing to someone that there's an issue, it can be easy to pretend it doesn't exist and that you're not accountable to anything. That's definitely not the case. Hopefully this is the first step of many away from your addiction and towards getting the help you need. No shame in admitting you have a problem - it takes a strong person to admit it!
  18. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Agree that being open about it and seeking help can help you get rid of the addiction totally. Any addiction is hard to just remove from your system and it will require your strong willpower to succeed over it. Hope you can find more motivation and support.
  19. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    I think the first thing that you should do is to avoid going to the casino to gamble. Everytime you feel the urge to go, just think about the losses that you have had in gambling and how your family will be disappointed with you. I think that's a good deterrent.
  20. Meds

    Meds Active Contributor

    I do believe that restoration is coming for you. Especially because you've taken the steps of confessing to yourself what you have done. And you've gone above and beyond by talking to your family about it too. There is hope for you. Just believe and press towards a better future.