I have always encouraged my children to be leaders and trend setters. Host alcohol free parties with your friends and others will follow your lead. We have bonfires in the fall, water parties in the summer, etc. Volleyball, badminton, horseshoes, and such can be a blast. A friend has a cage fighting gym set up in his barn where teens and others hang out on Friday night. They have pull up/push up and deadlifting contests and sparring. Even my younger children love to go. No drugs or alcohol.