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Is it really a problem?

Discussion in 'Alcohol' started by Hannah, Mar 4, 2016.

  1. Hannah

    Hannah Member

    I enjoy drinking almost every night. I don't get fall down drunk, but I certainly drunk until a tipsy buzz envelopes me. My friends all make digs or jokes about this, however when it comes to binge drinking on the weekends, I am never as messy as everyone else. I am never vomiting (except on very rare occasions), emotional or violent. I know where I am and how to get myself (and everyone esle) home.
    How does my lifestyle warrant judgement while other people are putting themselves in such harms way and it is culturally ok?
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  2. oportosanto

    oportosanto Community Champion

    If we are asking this question is because we never had an addiction case in our life. Sure, it's not a problem if we do it ocasionally, but on a daily basis is a problem.
  3. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    But just because a person drinks on a daily basis doesn't automatically make it a problem. There are a lot of factors to consider for a start.

    If that person goes to work, comes home and looks after the family and does all they have to do that day then opens a few beers to relax, is that a problem? Fair enough, if they're drinking all day everyday then there's clearly an issue but that's a whole other story.
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  4. remnant

    remnant Community Champion

    A person is a multidimensional being therefore we should not judge our actions on a single platform. Apart from the cultural aspect, there is also the spiritual aspect. In any case, the insidious effects of alcohol become apparent over time.
  5. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    If what your doing is out of control it's a problem. Since you say everything in your life is under control I don't see how it's a problem. Drinking in moderation isn't being a alcoholic. Still it's safer to avoid over doing it at anytime.
  6. Vinaya

    Vinaya Community Champion

    Once a week is ok, drinking while partying is ok, however, if you drink every day and enjoy it, you are getting addicted to alcohol. Enjoying drink every day is a warning sign. Once I drank alcohol every day for 7 days, it was during my cousin's wedding, when the celebration continued for 7 days. On day 8, when I had a feeling that I want to have alcohol, I got worried.I was almost addicted to alcohol.
  7. lost247

    lost247 Active Contributor

    Everything in moderation, including moderation.

    As addicts, most of us would view your post and assume you are, in fact, addicted to alcohol and are in denial. However, I've come to understand in my own recovery that it's not always black and white. My mother enjoys a glass of wine and a hit or two on a joint most nights in a week, she is not an addict. She works very hard (even in retirement) and the wine and pot help her to unwind after a long, busy day. some people, meditation works. some, its video games. these things are also enjoyed for the same reasons.

    addiction comes in to play, in my experience and opinion, when something is done with the intent to escape something else, something within you that you can't physically run away from. I see this in so many forms other than just drugs; gambling, sex, pornography, even catfishing (pretending to be someone else online) are things that people get addicted to because of something rooted in themselves.

    if you enjoy a drink or two at the end of your day and it helps you to relax, that is different than rushing home to a pint to guzzle so you can escape some part of yourself.

    just my 2 cents. sending everyone love and light.
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  8. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    Hello Hannah! I just want you to know that that's what I thought so at first only to be proven so wrong. If you keep on thinking that way, you'll find yourself falling into the same pit some alcoholics have fallen. Do not underestimate the enemy. Alcohol may have the last laugh. Best regards!
  9. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    As an ex-alcoholic myself, I know only too well the dangers I'd drinking to excess, but I still stand by my comment that drinking a couple of points at night isn't that dangerous.

    The danger begins when that couple of drinks turns into 5 then 10, as what happened in my case. If you are able to control what you drink at all times, then you won't have to face those issues in the future.
  10. JoshPosh

    JoshPosh Community Champion

    Can you function like a regular person? Are you able to go to work on time and take care of all of you responsibilities? If you can, then I don't see a problem in your lifestyle. But I do see a problem with your overall health. Just because you can handle weekend drinking doesn't mean your fit as a fiddle.
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  11. explorerx7

    explorerx7 Senior Contributor

    Addiction-wise it doesn't seem there is a problem, however, the concern should be if the amounts you are consuming could pose a danger to your health. The frequency of your drinking bouts would seem to suggest that your are consuming quite a bit of the substance. Therefore, it would be good if you try to ascertain what could probably a reasonable drinking level in order to try to protect your health.
  12. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    There are such things as functioning alcoholics if course and that's what I was. Able to live my life without any issues, but then need a drink at night aswell, and slowly but surely the drink took over.

    I'm not saying this is the same in this case because in my opinion I don't think there is a big problem in this case, but I do think it's something to bare in mind though.
  13. oportosanto

    oportosanto Community Champion

    Functioning alcoholics just function until they collapse, that just the way it is. They are abusing and one day the body says no more...
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  14. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    That may happen in some cases but that isn't what happened in mine. Nearly 10 years I was living that life, work and family commitments taken care of but drinking every night, and I mean EVERY night, as it was the only way I could get to sleep.

    I've no doubt that I'd still be doing that now if I hadn't have had the willpower to stop, and that's pretty much what happened. I just woke up one day and said enough is enough.
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  15. Hozyboy

    Hozyboy Active Contributor

    Drinking everyday is never a good idea. It causes addiction and if that is not what you want you may want to cut off on the alcohol intake to about once or twice per week.

    I do it mostly on the weekends. If you do not do this then most likely you will have to have a drink in the morning to start your day.
  16. Damien Lee

    Damien Lee Community Champion

    Well, I never judge anyone for their lifestyle choices. If you're out drinking and having a good time, and you're not hurting yourself or others, then it's really none of my business. However, if your drinking is having a negative effect on your health or attitude, then it's something that you will have to look at.
  17. oportosanto

    oportosanto Community Champion

    I think it's wise not to judge others, at the same time our lifestyle cannot justify everything and many times we think we are good, but everyone sees otherwise.
  18. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    The last thing people do on this forum though is judge people. I mean I'm sure that a lot of us including myself have come to this forum for help and guidance in overcoming our own addictions, so it would be a bit hypocritical if we was then going to turn round to others and tell them how they should be running their own lives.
  19. DangerSuit

    DangerSuit Member

    First of all Hannah, I would say that no one deserves to be judged, whether their acts are harmful or otherwise. We should concentrate on our own struggles and our own victories and look to others only out of love and compassion.

    Do you consider your consumption of alcohol a problem, or do you just feel it's a problem because other people have said it's too much. If you're not sure, perhaps approach it from this angle: Could you stop if you chose to? If you think you could, stop for a couple of days and see how you feel. This should give you a clearer indication of whether you have a problem.
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  20. JohnBeaulieu

    JohnBeaulieu Community Champion

    I think it is an unhealthy behavior at this point that can and possibly will turn into a larger problem if you don't slow it down. Buzzed=drunk whether people want to admit it or not and being drunk nightly is bound to lead to bigger issues to include health problems.