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Discussion in 'Share Your Story Here' started by crc3thebest, Apr 28, 2015.

  1. crc3thebest

    crc3thebest Community Champion

    I was young then, with little knowledge. Who knew what I could get myself into? It all started in middle school, where everyone believed they were cool. I had quickly made friends with some knew people outside of a hip pop event I starred in. Everyone seemed to like me, I thought things were going great!

    Now, it was Friday, everybody was saying party time. I had tons of homework to do from all the honors classes I was takin, there was no way I would consider partying. However, my friends were like, come on don't lag. Eventually, I went just to stay a while and chill. Then the party really started when my friends parents liqour cabinet was found, so I thought.

    Finally, after being pure pressured to do a body shot with my girl, a higher classman brought out the lighter and got some apples and pens. I was like okay. I've seen this on movies but why the apples. Before, I knew it we were blazed! Was I wrong to give in to peer pressure or was it okay to have fun?
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  2. MrsJones

    MrsJones Community Listener Community Listener

    crc3thebest, it's a good thing to remember things that you've experienced in the past but don't let those memories haunt you as to whether it was right or wrong in this present time. Surely you have learned the negative impact it 'had' on you but now is the time to look and move forward on the path you have set in your life today.
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  3. Nick W.

    Nick W. Community Listener Community Listener

    I think it depends on your definition of the word "wrong". Was it illegal? Certainly. Was it irresponsible? I don't know. How did your schoolwork end up? Was it dangerous? Potentially.

    Hopefully you learned from the experience and can use that valuable experience to help you in making decisions down the line. I can say this, remember that not every experience is good and not every experience is going to happen exactly the same way. Be careful. Think about your decisions before you make them, not after, and be prepared to deal with any consequences that occur due to your decision making.
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  4. missbishi

    missbishi Community Champion

    How long ago did all this happen? Were you just a teenager at the time? If so. please don't worry. Plenty of teenagers experiment with liquor and you mustn't beat yourself up about it. Just concentrate on leading a happy and healthy life and let your past mistakes go.
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  5. imperivm1

    imperivm1 Community Champion

    We all slip up every now and again. I wouldn't even call this a slip-up. From what I gather, this was a one time thing and you simply gave in to the temptation. No harm, no foul. It's okay to let off steam and have some fun for a change. Be careful when there's drugs involved, though. Things could escalate fairly quickly before you've had the chance to realize what's going on.
  6. crc3thebest

    crc3thebest Community Champion

    Thank You so much for your input, I will definately look forward to taking all the advice you have bestowed Mrs.Jones!
  7. crc3thebest

    crc3thebest Community Champion

    I know I should have put more thought into the course of action I took, however it was like there was no way out. Even today, I find that day being a pivotal moment in my life. Though it did not affect my grades or family life, I feel as if it hurt my ability to lead.
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  8. crc3thebest

    crc3thebest Community Champion

    Cool response! I have stayed up for nights thinking about the ways it was a right decision. The main reason is the fact it affects me today. Who knew one day could change the course of how I lived. Now I know how the 70`s felt.
  9. crc3thebest

    crc3thebest Community Champion

    You are so right, I have lost so much do to addiction and have recently lost friends. I am working diligently to not let the effects of that day to stay with mr throughout life. It is so hard to do when you lose a friend that has been witb you through it all.
  10. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    I think a lot of people growing up experiment with certain substances, that's only normal and a lot just stop there and leave it at that.

    When you become addicted then that's obviously where the problem lies and that's exactly what happened to me. I found that I preferred life on a substance than what I did off it and its affected my life.

    I'm managing to turn things around but it's not been easy but I guess it shows it can be done.
  11. crc3thebest

    crc3thebest Community Champion

    I really thank you for taking time to help me cope with my past. Hopefully, we both find freedom. At times, I feel in chains. Whenever, I move it draws me right back!
  12. EditorsRHumansToo!

    EditorsRHumansToo! Community Champion

    Hi @crc3thebest Yes! Good for you to have learned from that hard lesson. With that, you never went back to that kind of activity, which in your heart, wasn't fun and right? Good fun is 'good' and every one enjoys it-- no one is getting hurt or harmed. The fun activity is 'unquestionable' to anyone's conscience.

    What is important is the 'now'-- the present-- and what you hope your future to be.
  13. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Right that it was past already and better to avoid being on those situation again. We should not always give in to peer pressure especially if we know that it is a bad thing or can bring use bad effects. There should be self control and strong stand.
  14. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    Your story was about your past, but you didn't say how are you now presently. I think you should just put your past behind you, like what the others have said. You were young that time, so you were prone to making the wrong decision. Hopefully now that you have grown, you will not engage in such behavior anymore.
  15. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    Being young gives us the pleasure of time to experiment. I guess we all went through certain stages in our lives where we became immature and curious. It happened to you once and you say it still haunts you until now. Maybe because you still feel guilty about it. Maybe in your mind you wished it never happened at all. Maybe you're still ashamed of the things that took place that night. If you are, then it's time to move on.

    We couldn't avoid committing mistakes every now and then, it's part of life. What's important is how we deal with them and move on. Don't let what happened in the past define your life. Think of a bright future waiting for you and dwell on that.
  16. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    All of us made mistakes and ruined things in the past. It's part of life, I guess. But don't take all those things too hard. It's alright to look back at the memories, but don't ever live in the past.
  17. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    The past is there for you to learn from and avoid repeating (particularly if they're mistakes caused by lapse of judgment). You can do so much with the here and now so rather than look back, you should do your best to move forward and lead a life you can be proud of.
  18. Nick W.

    Nick W. Community Listener Community Listener

    I wouldn't look at it that way. Did it affect your ability to lead? Perhaps. However, it also gave you strength when you learned from it. Being a leader isn't about never making a wrong choice. It's about making the right choice when it's hard. If you feel like you messed up, that's OK, a strong leader will learn from those mistakes and change the way the outcome plays out the next time.