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Discussion in 'General Substance Abuse Discussion' started by Tsky45, Jan 21, 2016.

  1. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    The thing about overcoming an addiction is reconditioning your mind to not need it. If you've been doing something for a long time it might take a while to stop. That's why I think persistence is the most important thing. I have struggled with a porn addiction that's getting much easier to control after months and months of trying to break it. I think if your willing to go for as long as it takes even after relapses, you can do it. What do you think?
  2. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    I agree - I think sometimes that we expect things to be an easy fix, as simple as turning on and off a light switch. The fact of the matter is that as humans we are far more complex than that, and it's not always that simple (although it would be nice if it was!)

    I think as long as we are committed to improving ourselves day by day, and getting back on the horse if we fall off, then we are doing well.
  3. Vinaya

    Vinaya Community Champion

    Addiction is not a necessity, it is a want, a desire, which means your body does not need substance, your mind needs.
  4. Winterybella

    Winterybella Community Champion

    I think I could not have said it better. I wish you all the best on your road to recovery Tsky45.
  5. anorexorcist

    anorexorcist Community Champion

    I agree with you, most of addictions are a mind thing, as you've said we got used to do that activity and our brain thinks that we really need that in order to survive, because that's how we work, and the good thing about this is that we also can stop ourselves to "need" that activity, it's obviously more difficult but it's possible.
  6. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    I agree with that.Our minds and body can be conditioned to do or not to do things. It will be self control and focus or power of the mind. It could be a slow process but at least it will lead to success.
  7. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    You're right @Tsky45. :) Recovery takes time to be fully accomplished. There may be times when relapses may happen but what's important is to just keep going and give ourselves the time to reach sobriety. It is not an instant state to reach but a slow and steady move towards it is the best thing to do. Let's not be too hard on ourselves to want to recover immediately. Patience and perseverance are very important.
  8. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    I agree with you about that. Addiction controls your mind, so you better know how to fight it. Well, I am glad you're doing pretty well in overcoming your porn addiction. Way to go. Just take your time.
  9. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    A lot of addicts think that giving up will be hard, but they don't know how it it actually is until they've tried it and I think a lot don't give it enough time.

    Aswell as your physical dependency needing time to adjust, so does your mind and if you keep giving up.And relapsing the first time it gets hard then they're never going to manage to live their life free from addiction.
  10. Coolkidhere

    Coolkidhere Community Champion

    Recovery does take time and effort. If we give up easily, we won't overcome the addiction. They say that the first days and weeks are the hardest. It will get time. Do not give up easily, continue on with the fight. You might be having the worst time now, but in the future, it can only get better. I hope more and more people realise this and stick with their goals.
  11. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    Time IS all it takes and from someone who's been in that situation myself then I should know. There are obviously going to be good days and bad days but just preserving with something often makes all the difference.
  12. ReadmeByAmy

    ReadmeByAmy Community Champion

    You are absolutely right! It is nice to hear that you had overcome to control your porn addiction. Just continue to have that will power to fight your addiction and your persistence will change your life for the better.
  13. djdrug

    djdrug Community Champion

    Yeah, stay at it. The more determined you are, the more easily you can get through. Minor slips are fine, as long as you stay broadly on track.
  14. rz3300@

    rz3300@ Senior Contributor

    Well they do say that time heals all wounds, so certainly this should be no different. It is true, though, that with time things become a little easier. I know that in my own experience the first month or so was really the hardest, and then with more and more time I was just more comfortable in my own skin and I really got back into a different routine, which really helped me.
  15. Vinaya

    Vinaya Community Champion

    You should never take time to give up substance abuse, or addiction of any kind. More you wait to give up, more risks you are taking. You should always give up first and later think about what you need to do to remain sane during the recovery process.
  16. Jasmine2015

    Jasmine2015 Community Champion

    I agree wholeheartedly on this. It takes your mind and body time to readjust to change. I have noticed this with my cut down with sugar. There are days when I want some type of candy but the feeling passes and then I feel good for not giving in.
  17. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    I think that we need to go through with our recovery process even when we don't feel like it, simply because that is the only way out. Rehab is one of the hardest thing in the world, especially if your mind has been programmed to be a certain way for a long time. Always remember that it's worth it in the end, even if you don't want to go through with it on certain days.
  18. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    Yes, reconditioning your mind seems like the best way to stop addiction, since the mind is a powerful tool, and it can greatly influence our thoughts and what we do. I think it also helps to keep yourself busy so that you can't think of your cravings.
  19. Mayoress

    Mayoress Active Contributor

    I totally agree. We need to see this as a life long journey and be committed to it for as long as we live. It shouldn't be seen as an easy journey, neither should it be seen as a fast one. Once we start seeing it as a life long journey, it becomes more bearable.
  20. dalzieleone

    dalzieleone Member

    I totally agree. Reconditioning your mind to take different patterns takes time. You did not wake up one day and became an addict. So the same way it won't take a day to change your patterns. I too believe persistence is the key. No matter how many times you fall, always get back up. It doesn't matter how many times you fall, all that matters is you getting back up after falling.