As a teenager I was in a relationship with an older man who had addiction problems. These involved alcohol abuse as well as illegal drugs. I still had a lot of growing up and maturing to do and eventually I realized I needed to take a step back. Part of my reasoning for this was that I was completely lost in how to deal with things. I was living in a constant state of fear as to what I would find when I went home each night after class. I was pouring wine bottles down the sink secretly in the middle of the night, and throwing any drugs I found away. Another part of my reason for stepping back was that I came to the conclusion that I was not actually assisting with any kind of recovery for him. I was a late-comer to his addiction and it was far beyond any help I could provide. In order to leave the situation I visited his sister. I explained to her absolutely everything that had gone on, and was still happening. I made sure she was completely aware of the severity of his addictions. His family was very religious and did not see the warning signs earlier. None of his friends or previous girlfriends had brought anything to their attention (presumably for fear of criticism themselves). I felt like the best thing I could really do for him was to inform his family and let them help him. Has anyone else needed to step back from a loved one struggling with addiction? I still worry about my decision, and sometimes I regret it. I know it is something I will always struggle with as his journey did not end well. I try to reassure myself that I did the best I could under the circumstances.