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Learn to Change Your LIFE and let go of History

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by tasha, Aug 26, 2015.

  1. tasha

    tasha Community Listener Community Listener

    We all have our weaknesses and being a part of history is one of them. When you have a history with someone or something it is so difficult to let it go even though we know it is bad for us.
    Learning to take a good look at our lives and see where it could be better often points into the direction we already knew that it would. Changing the pattern or breaking the mould can be the most difficult thing to do and it can eat at you and eat at you until you just learn to live with it and continue on in a empty, lonely and miserable life because you were too afraid to take that stand and change your life or you felt that you would not make it on your own.
    Here is some good news and hopefully inspirational. YOU CAN BE THE CHANGE THAT YOU NEED AND DESERVE!
    Life is what you make it out to be and e all have an inner strength that will see us through any situation, the human body and mind is incredible and we can endure so much in life.
    What you need to do is to see and source out what it is that is bringing you down and then TAKE A STAND, take a chance and change your life for you, nobody but you.
    You will see it might be difficult to let go of certain things and it might be hard or lonely when you try but if you give it some time, you will succeed, you will see the light and you will know that you are a survivor and you do have the capability to change your life and make your own destiny.
    The path is yours to choose and the history can either break you or make you stronger than ever before.
    Learn to let go and move forward.
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  2. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Very true. Don't dwell too much in the past; it's not going to be healthy for you. It would just make you feel sad and depressed. As much as possible, try to be positive about life and look forward to the future. There is so much things ahead of you. :)
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  3. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    Positivity goes a long way in anybody's live. Life is so much better and easy to deal with when you keep a positive attitude. If you believe in yourself and you see all the good things in life then you are already moving forward. You have to learn to let go of the past and move forward. You can't change the past so why live there. Living in the past does you no good only caused you heard and sadness. This is an awesome post and so well written!! Love it!
  4. Winterybella

    Winterybella Community Champion

    I think there is much food for thought in your post Tasha. I see this too much where people hold on to the history-bad history and it's crippling. It seems such a difficult thing for many. but the past is often just where it needs to be-behind you.
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  5. juno

    juno Community Champion

    There are often so many things in the past that may have led to the problems and the addictions. If you don't work through those issues and learn to let them go and leave it behind, then recovery can be challenging. I definitely think therapy is a big part of the recovery process for this reason.
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  6. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    I used to find this very very difficult, and it's still something I have to work on these days - not letting things get to me, not letting things that have happened and that I can't change make me angry or upset. It's a lot easier these days, to be able to say what's done is done - and not dwell on the past, but focus on the present and future!
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  7. CallipygianGamine

    CallipygianGamine Community Champion

    Gosh, yes. I was just talking with someone about this earlier today. I went through a pretty bad personal crisis in the beginning of this year and I have to admit, it still crosses my mind much more than I’d like to admit. But now it’s more in terms of how happy I am that I didn’t let the situation progress. I no longer beat myself up about letting it happen in the first place. Instead, I chose to let my anger about the situation fuel the changes I knew I needed to make. And I’m much happier now than I’ve been in a long time since I’ve made more of an effort to let my past BS go.
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  8. Whiskers

    Whiskers Active Contributor

    Everyone has a past. May not be a former addiction but we have all been to places we regret about today. Hanging to the past does not aid the healing process and should be shunned by all means. Forge ahead with new dreams for the future.
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  9. Lizzy19ph

    Lizzy19ph Member

    I absolutely agree that for us to heal fast and move on completely, we must first learn how to let go of past hurts and disappointments in life. We cannot erase our past, our history for it had been a part of us and made us who are now. When we learn to truly let go, that's the time our lives would make a complete turn around for the better- it is our choice to move forward or to get stuck in the same rut we are in. :)
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  10. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    I do like that quote and right that change starts from ourselves. Nothing can be changed if we do not start it and we should learn how to effectively move on and let go of those things that makes our lives harder.
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  11. Rosyrain

    Rosyrain Community Champion

    This is a great thread. Some people look back to where they have been way to much, when you should be looking to the future and what you still have to achieve. The future is where we are all headed and that is where we can all make some big changes in our lives.
  12. JoshPosh

    JoshPosh Community Champion

    That is something we can never change, the past. All we can do is learn from it and move on/forward in life. Learn from your mistakes. Dwelling on mistakes will only bring you down, and sobriety becomes even more difficult.