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Lost my Brother

Discussion in 'Heroin' started by ccpier, Oct 4, 2014.

  1. Gale

    Gale Member

    I'm so sorry to hear about your sad story. It may seem to be six years to the world but I understand that to you it will always feel as if it happened yesterday. I'm here to encourage you to be strong and learn from the experience and never to go down that road.
    Sometimes it is hard to know when your loved one is taking hard drugs and hiding it from you since they are very good in lying and act like everything is going on well but indeed they are crushing from inside.
    Even if it is hard for you to share the story, it is a good thing you have done and you will touch the heart of someone who is into hard drugs and will now know that they do no good but destroy them slowly by days.
  2. kjonesm1

    kjonesm1 Community Champion

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss, but you can't put your self worth in your brothers decisions to use. Once a person is hooked on a drug there is not much anybody can do to stop them until they make the effort on their own.
  3. scootpony

    scootpony Active Contributor

    ccpier and maryannballera, I am so sorry for both of you. I can't imagine any losses more tragic than yours. Every time I hear something like that I regret that there is so little that can be said to help. I just hope you both have plenty of people close to you who can offer listening ears, hands to hold and hugs because you can't get all that online.

    I'm afraid I don't understand the attraction to heroin, either. It's always seemed like one of the single most frightening substances around to me. And one of the hardest to get off of once on. Which, from what I've heard doesn't really take but once to get on.
  4. missbishi

    missbishi Community Champion

    My brother died six years ago too so I feel your pain. Sadly, there are never any answers, as I have learned. All we can really do is resolve to enjoy our lives as they should have done. It's hard though, especially around birthdays and Christmas.
  5. jeremy2

    jeremy2 Community Champion

    My heart goes out to you and your family. It's quite painful to loose two members of your family on the same day. I pray that you will find the strength to move on however hard it may seem. Your brother had issues with drugs and you can't blame yourself for whatever happened to him. That experience should only strengthen your resolve to share with others the deadly effects of such kind of drugs and hopefully, save a soul somewhere. Thanks for sharing.
  6. Rowe992

    Rowe992 Senior Contributor

    Well it is sad to hear about losing both you father and brother on the same day. Drugs such as heroine can be very devastating on the lives of that only those who use it but also on their family and friends. Maybe your brother used the drug to escape some problem he had and not because he wanted to get away from you.
  7. mattattack

    mattattack Member

    Oh ccpier, I am so sorry to hear your story. I am sending a million cyber hugs over the internet right now to you and your family. But I want to add that how brave and noble I think it is that you're telling your story online. It serves as a warning and may help save somebody else who is having addiction problems. So I just wanted to say thank you for speaking out :)

    Matt x
  8. Determined2014

    Determined2014 Senior Contributor

    People are all different, they all get drawn to drugs for their own personal different reasons, some go to it to pass time, or to hide from certain issues, some do it for fun, peer pressure, so ther must have been something that dreew him to do heroin.
  9. Charli

    Charli Community Champion

    Yeah, for things like this it would be more realistic to assume that the pain would be there forever, but hopefully there will be some things surrounding those emotions that will make it better or at least a little bit more bearable. In time it should be a little easier to cope with, and hopefully the sadness can be channeled into something worthwhile.
  10. rightct

    rightct Community Champion

    I, too, witnessed a lot of people dying from heroin - and other drugs - overdose through my life, but unlike you, those people weren't part of my family, nor friends, but I still felt a rather disturbing sensation of disgust toward our life principles which are decaying daily. I think I would have felt worse if those people had been part of my family, so I can relate to what you had to endure.
    Though, always remember that you shouldn't have any kind of remorses whatsoever, because you weren't directly implicated in his drug world, and if you had known of it, you would have surely done something to help him.
  11. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost a friend several years ago to heroin abuse and it was heartbreaking. I try to remember that there was nothing that I could have done because he had no interest in getting clean, but it still hurts. I try to remember the good times that we had together and honor his memory by educating people about how addictive and dangerous this drug really is.
  12. JoanMcWench

    JoanMcWench Community Champion

    I'm sorry an avalanche of garbage hit your life. That's always a difficult time for anyone. It's not a surprise that you were unaware of the addiction. Sometimes we end up trusting our loved ones & ignoring things we normally wouldn't in others we don't know as well. Addictions are progressive. It rarely starts in a place where you're on deaths doorstep. It's likely he was both an alcoholic & a heroin user.