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Discussion in 'Helping an Addicted Loved One' started by gracer, May 8, 2015.

  1. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    Drug or substance abuse is not just a problem for the user but for family members and loved ones as well. It is both physically and emotionally draining because as you see your loved one struggle with his/her addiction you also feel his/her hardship. Aside from showing support and love for the addicted loved one, you also have to fight feelings of helplessness yourself. It's not really easy to be on the other end of the rope because as you see your family member waste him/herself into addiction, your emotions also take a hold on you.

    Loved ones and family members of addicted individuals also need support and encouragement for them to be able to help their addicted member. I personally admire the patience and courage of these people in guiding their member back to the right path. We should all give them our gratitude for being so strong to face all the challenges they also have to go through.
  2. MyDigitalpoint

    MyDigitalpoint Community Champion

    Yes, family members are really important in the process of detox, rehab, recovery and stay sober afterward.

    There will never be enough words to thank them for their support and confidence on the addict, when the whole world had stopped to believe in him/her.

    When it comes to alcohol addicts, Alcoholics Anonymous have a support group for family members dealing with the addiction of one of its members. I think programs like this don't only help them to understand and help better an addicted person, but also to receive the emotional support they also need.
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  3. smartmom

    smartmom Senior Contributor

    Its one of the worse feelings. I have gone though this with a loved one. It does drain a person. One day they are up and one day they are down. Its like living with Dr. Jekel and Mr. Hyde. I will be honest, its easier to just run! They steal, lie, cheat, and all of the above to get what they want. Hurting people is no problem to them. They hurt themselves and others just like that.
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  4. 6up

    6up Community Champion

    We need to show love to our loved ones. Let them understand how much we love them, and that is why we are very much concerned about them. We should not abuse them or show disrespect. We should be close to them so that they can openly share with us.
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  5. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    This is why in addiction, the addict isn't the only one who needs help. The loved ones who try to care for and understand him/her also need to be helped because they're the ones who absorb everything. When an addict is miserable, they're even more miserable seeing their loved one fall into addiction. No family member in his/her right mind would ever want to watch his/her family member be put down from addiction. They're hurting much more than an addict does.
  6. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    You are really right that drug addiction is not just a problem of the user but also of the family. It is also a problem of the society since addiction can make someone do crimes like stealing. The love and care of a family could really help.
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  7. ReadmeByAmy

    ReadmeByAmy Community Champion

    If there are signs or things that you had noticed that a member of your family is doing something that will affect the safety of their well being, then it is time to intervene if they need emotional or moral support from your family. Never judge them but instead extend your warm acceptance and embrace them with your love and support while they are on that crisis in their life. A love ones should never be left alone in times like this. After all no matter what happened a family will always be a family.
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  8. amethyst

    amethyst Community Champion

    I think the worst thing that you can do in any situation in life is to point a finger and judge another. It takes time to learn how to be non-judgmental, as we are taught from an early age on how to identify with certain ideals or things in life. So, when it comes to caring for others who are directly or indirectly affected by substance abuse, extra trust, sympathy and unconditional love goes a very long way to help with the healing process of everyone involved.
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  9. Cheeky_Chick

    Cheeky_Chick Community Champion

    It is definitely hard for the family, and a lot of the time they have to adopt a kind of "cruel to be kind" approach to it as well in order to help us kick the habit, and that makes us resent them even more, despite the fact that they only have our best interests at heart. The good thing is, though, if we are (fingers crossed) lucky enough to recover from our addiction, it really does help us to appreciate what our family means to us even more, when we see what they went through.
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  10. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    That is true @Cheeky_Chick. Most family members especially the immediate ones are strongly affected by a person's addiction without him/her realizing it at the time he/she is still in the addiction phase. But once he/she recovers from addiction, that's when he/she realizes that indeed his/her family members only thought of his concern and well being. That is one hard part of being a family member of an addicted person, how to effectively deal with him/her without appearing to be his/her enemy.
  11. light

    light Active Contributor

    I agree with you in every word you have written! Family members need a great support and encouragement not to blame themselves for unsuccessful attempts they have done to guide one of their members back to the right path. Struggling emotionally with the addiction of a loved one, is an uphill battle! I admire their patience and strongly believe that they deserve all the best off this world!