This may be long and definitely lacking details, but i will try to cover important parts of my story. So i recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years due to his addictive tendencies. The reason why i use this term is because i am not certain that he is fully addicted to drugs. But i definitely know that he is addicted to a life style which involves risk, money, and power (weed-selling). And yes, there has been some lying involved in the situation so i have had some trouble trusting him. Despite this, he is the most genuine and loving person i have ever met, and i am not just saying this because i love him. He will bend his back to help any person, so one can only imagine how amazing he was and is to me. He always tried to push through his problems to make me happy. Ever since i've known him i have been fully aware that he is a dangerous risk taker and has been in trouble with the law. Last year he got hooked onto opiates, but quit cold turkey after about 5 months and hadn't taken them since until about a couple months ago when he began to crumble. In fact, he recently just admitted after repeatedly telling me he hadn't taken opiates that he slipped a few times within the past few months. I told him that if he did not discontinue his risk-taking behaviors which involved some weed dealing, i would be forced to leave him as i needed to eliminate any unnecessary mental stress from my life-no matter how in love with him i am. So he bent his back to do this, but it was easier said than done and i believe that has something to do with not only his addiction to the lifestyle, but also because separating oneself from that lifestyle can be dangerous. He also lost an absurd amount of money in the process. So here is how the drug abuse comes into play: There would be times when he would lose thousands and thousands of dollars and break down. His coping mechanism-benzos. He would take very little, but that combined with lack of sleep caused him to lose it. This didnt happen very often, but when it did it hurt me to see this. There were also a couple times (and when i say couple, i mean about 2 to 3) when coke and opiates were involved as well. When this happened, i separated myself from the situation. I knew that he would never hurt me but i could not stand to watch him act soooo out of his right mind. After the last incident, i decided to go home (i had been living a few hours away from home in the same town as him). I was going to do this anyway for grad school in the fall, but i cut our summer short and decided to break things off with him. It has been extremely difficult for me to not pry and try to give him advice while i am home, but i am learning that allowing him to hit rock bottom is what he will need. I also know that even if this is not rock bottom, another one will come around. My main issue right now is knowing that he has been leaning on the wrong people for support (major enablers, if you know what i mean) and has been drifting from his old friends and family. I try so hard not to show my frustration, so i recently told him that when he is with those people i do not want him to talk to me (especially because we talk significantly less now). He says he wants to get away from this lifestyle and these people, but he was tired of feeling so lonely-which i can empathize with, but cannot support. In addition to this, when he admitted to the opiate slips he stated that he was not able to tell himself the truth the past few months. He says he has been doing some soul searching recently and also used the term "addicted to drugs," which i believe is a positive step. Aside from this, we are both heart broken over our break up. He says it kills him that i feel so much pain and hurt and he wishes i didnt have to feel this way. I feel the same for him, but i dont say that because i know this pain may be healthy for him. I just constantly remind him that i made this decision because i cant have all of this in my life anymore, but that i love him and always will and that i still have hope that maybe we can work out eventually. I am seeing a therapist right now, but I guess any advice is always appreciated-or mostly just support.