I've never had an easy time make close friends. Even when I was a kid, I never had more than two or three friends at a time, and usually there was just one "good friend" and a couple of girls that I played with if the "best friend" was sick or otherwise indisposed of." So part of using for me was the fringe element I finally managed to cling to the outer edges of, and when I would stop. I never had anyone who I was close to, to confide in or do things with. Making friends when you are an older woman who has never been social, is a trial to begin with, add into it that you are in recovery and your choice of people you are willing to share that with trims down the number of available women to make friends with to an even smaller group. I have been lucky enough to click with one woman in recovery that I met through a parenting group years ago and I discovered how much support I found in having a friend in recovery. Drugs however, were not out of our lives for good yet and so we decided we would be best off ending the friendship. Since then I have not met another person with whom I can share my experiences with. I miss that so much and feel like it is a huge part of a successful recovery. I am therefore, so very very grateful to forums like this that give my words voice and give me feedback and insight from a number of supportive people whom I am comfortable in sharing with, Thank you everyone who posts in this forum, you help fill an empty space left by lack of a supportive friend in my life at present. I am sure a lot of others who are not able to easily make close friends feel the same. Do you think that as we get older it gets more and more difficult to make friends? Do you think it is harder for women and do you think being in recovery stops us from making close friends as opposed to casual ones?