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Marijuana is highly addictive! I'm fed with this!!!

Discussion in 'Marijuana' started by Momof2needshelp, Jul 5, 2016.

  1. I have a 6 month old baby boy and a 7 year old. My husband and I have been married for 1 year now. I never knew he smoked until the day we moved in. He smokes every single day. If he stops he getsaid irrate and becomesee a jerk!. He only loves me when he's high. I'm so tired of his abuse. He says that's he's not addicted to it but yet agrees that when he is off the Marijuana he doesn't feel good and feels mad. This picture is me. He hit me right before he got high as soon as he got high he was trying to be nice. How can this crap be legal in some states I don't get it!!!

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  2. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Momof2needshelp... I'm sorry you're going through what you're going through. Marijuana can certainly be addictive for some people. It sounds like your husband may be one of them. Have you ever asked him to consider going to treatment? If he's not willing to get help, do you feel like you want to stay in the situation you're in? I always get scared when there is physical abuse of any kind going on. Just know that you should take every precaution to make sure that you and your kids are safe.

    We're here to help and support you however we can. I'm keeping good thoughts for you and sending you hugs.
  3. We've talked about getting help but we never end up going. On top of that he also addictect to porn. He makes me feel useless. I don't want to be in this situation anymore. But everytime I pack my stuff and leave with my kids he starts calling me and begging me to come back that he's going to change of course that never happens. I'm the stupid one that keeps coming back to him. It's taken a toll in me physically and mostly mentally.
  4. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Momof2needshelp... That calling you and begging you to come back, telling you that he's going to change, is all part of an addict's manipulation. Of course all of this is taking a toll on you. Addiction is a family disease. It affects everyone who loves the person suffering with it. And sometimes detaching is the best thing you can do. It doesn't mean that you stop caring or loving or being supportive. It just means that you learn how to do those things without driving yourself crazy. Have you ever read Melody Beattie's book Codependent No More? If not, I highly recommend it. It's an amazing resource for loved ones.
  5. I've never heard of that book, but will go look for it today actually I'll let you know when I get it. :)
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  6. Martin Jacobs

    Martin Jacobs Member

    Hi, I personalty believe that the exceed cause big damage, your husband should be smoking all days, or drinking, or taking any medicine everyday.
  7. Horace Nevil

    Horace Nevil Member

    Do something about it, stop besmirching a substance when the truth is the person is the toxin, not the other way around.
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  8. Maninthebox

    Maninthebox Member

    It's the person smoking it. Not the weed.

    Peace to all of you,
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  9. touchofgrey92

    touchofgrey92 Member

    Marijuana is most deffinently addicting to some people, including myself, but it is from an addictive personality. If you have the personality, you'd be damn surprised what you can become addicted to.
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  10. Maddie

    Maddie Member

    Myvows, I’m married to a 68 year old weed addicted man 25 years of marriage both our second . He retired after six yes. And has smoked weed everyday since. His first marriage was abuse from the wife. He is in the streets everyday ,ten to twenty four hours. For the past 12 of those years he has had 6 heart attacks with 7 stints , brain surgery from a fall multiple myeloma and prostate cancer. He has bits of rage it’s always been there. I’m a believer in self help meeting . I put them down because I thought I was ok. I’m alone most of the time now since I retired. We both have adult children. And they know the situation, I want keep this hid like I did in my first . I’m not feeeling anything but disgust . We have little country house and I stopped going because he entertaine men with drinking an weed . We don’t have a Life together because of the friends and weed smoking . He’s high everyday. Something time I think he’s gay . We have not been intimate in 12 years . He talks about the men and the drugs with excitement and if I say a word I get his finger in my face saying no one is going to run his life or friendships and weed is not harmful. I hate the illness not the person, I keep my mouth SHUT at all times I’m the nurse , cook , Repairman and a very special lady , I want more than drug addiction and illness in my life .. this is only because of the vow in sickness and in health. Nothing more.
  11. True concern

    True concern Moderator

    @Maddie You are a very strong person,I understand you're commitment to that vow and I am a person who also honors the same vow.I don't have good advice because anything I want to say would require you to ignore that vow.I know other's will reply,and they will have better advice for you than I have to offer,just know he is very lucky to have you but you deserve so much better
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  12. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Maddie... Please take good care of yourself. Yes, you took a vow. But that doesn't mean that you can't put a lot of energy into practicing self-care. Put yourself at the top of our priority list for a change. You deserve that.
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  13. Lynnette

    Lynnette Member

    My husband is the same way... as soon as he is running low on weed he is the meanest person you will ever meet. Pure hatefulness. The moment he gets high he tries sucking up and acting like nothing every happened and expects me to just be “over it”. But I can’t forget those mean hurtful words he’s said!
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  14. Dominica

    Dominica Recovery Advocate @ Moving Beyond Codependency Community Listener

    @Lynnette hey there. i'm sorry this happens to you... it's not right for him to be mean to you b/c he can't have his fix... it's not ok!! i hope he will stop doing this...and that you'll be able to set some firm boundaries with him regarding this type of behavior.
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  15. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Lynnette... I agree with @Dominica. You need to set some firm boundaries with your husband. You should not have to be subjected to verbal abuse because of his addiction.
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  16. True concern

    True concern Moderator

    It's not the weed rather the person is a miserable violent asshole period and the weed is the tranquilizer, I know my stepson is the same way,with weed he kisses everyone's ass without weed he tries to hurt everyone physically or emotionally but I know him well it's just his personality and unfortunately there are many who are the same way.Basically all substances do nothing but mask a person's true self whether it be for better or worse substances have enslaved 65% of American citizens by the last stats I heard whether it's heroin,meth,pills,weed,etc we here in America seem to prefer an alternate reality and I fight the urge everyday and it's exhausting but I can't just willingly accept that alternate reality without fighting back.STAY STRONG AND GOD BLESS
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  17. Joshstillclean

    Joshstillclean Stupidity Exists - Fact.

    I just stumbled across this and I gotta put my two cents in.
    Women, stop fooling yourselves, I did not see a single man post that his wife became abusive after running low on weed.
    I smoked daily for 15 or 16 years. I have quit that but still would pee hot because of medical oil.
    I'm 31 I have smoked half of my life. I used to live in Colorado and weed was in my monthly budget. I'm not kidding. I have never hit a woman, high or not. I have been hit by a woman. I warned her if she continues I would treat her like a man.
    She continues. I can't bring myself to hit her so I just grab her wrists and wrap my arms around her and she couldn't move. I think honestly that made her more angry than if I had hit her. Because it was so extremely easy for me to just physically control her. I think she wanted a bruise and thinking back I'm glad I didn't put one on her.
    In fact I grabbed her so easy that she didnt have grip marks. I remember that really well.
    There is reason for a man to defend his self sure. And I defended myself. If 99% of men hit a girl like they would hit a guy she would have broken bones in her face. Its just the truth. I think that's why God made us naturally want to be protective. We are just built different. I digress,
    Pot is not evil. I like pot. If I didn't think I would relapse on other stuff I have good reason to use it daily. But I will not. However if I did, no one would know after I put in eyedrops.
    The problem is with the man or woman. And that woman that hit me... She apologized after I brought home some edibles from the dispensary. Its not the weed. To say that is to ignore the real issue. If a man is hurting you he's gonna do it with or without weed. Men, I learned same goes for women
    Heck I could say I was a battered man(although it may be the case I would feel like a total idiot saying that).
    Real men, don't hurt your spouse or gifriend. Women that goes for you too
    If you want to blame pot for something then you are just as guilty.
    Don't deny the fact you are in an abusive relationship by saying your spouse has a marijuana addiction. This may make it worse, but it is not the problem.
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