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Masturbation ewww!

Discussion in 'Other Substances' started by Davienna, Feb 20, 2016.

  1. Davienna

    Davienna Community Champion

    I think I have been single for too long, I find myself masturbating two to three times per day. It can be irritating at times because even when I am at work I have to take bathroom breaks to please myself. Sad it is indeed, as I will stop for a few days thinking I have somewhat cured myself but then I start doing it more often than not. Masturbation is a common thing but being addicted to it is another. I fear I will eventually lose sensitivity... I need help.
  2. JerPostr98

    JerPostr98 Member

    Masturbation addiction is definitely a real concern. A lot of people don't consider it be "classic" addiction such as alcohol or other drugs; however, I definitely agree on it being worse than most people think. I would also argue that pornography is including in this too. I myself masturbate frequently and its a habit that I have tried to break many times... but it's nearly impossible for me. I have become addicted to the orgasmic feeling of the dopamine running throughout my system... it is not an easy cycle to break. I need help too, and I wish you the best of luck.
  3. Davienna

    Davienna Community Champion

    It is so hard for me as I am also becoming addicted to porn as I have to watch in order to perform the task I just hope if I get involved in a relationship that will help as I can then be reliant on my partner.
  4. JerPostr98

    JerPostr98 Member

    I know the feeling and I understand where you are coming from. Addiction to masturbation and pornography seem as if they go hand in hand most of the time. For me, getting into a relationship did help a bit; however, it wasn't a full-fledged cure. I think the best thing to do is to attempt to take initiative. Meeting like-minded people on forums can help too!
  5. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    For me an addiction is not an addiction if it doesn't disrupt your daily activities. In your case, the fact that you have begun taking bathroom breaks just to do it is a sign of interference already. So hard as it may seem, you have to try to get busy always and be preoccupied to avoid thinking about masturbation often. Getting an FWB can help ease the urges too.
  6. Davienna

    Davienna Community Champion

    What is FWB Serenity? I do know it is really getting worst so I will try as many possible cures. I mainly do it for comfort and relaxation, it releases my stress so I probably need to find some other form of anti depressants but I am trying to avoid drugs as much as possible so, my options are limited.
  7. SashaS

    SashaS Community Champion

    It is unfortunate and I wish you all the best. But there are people out there with mental illnesses who find themselves doing this way more often than you do, so don't worry about being insane or anything like that. Just having a partner can help a lot, keeping yourself away from stimulation may help too. You are making a good choice by avoiding drugs. I used to have this problem as a teen but having a girlfriend has resulted in me completely abandoning it. At least you've come to the right place for help! Good luck and enjoy your week.
  8. juno

    juno Community Champion

    I think being addicted to Masturbation may be related to a sex addiction. However, if you just have the urge to go do it, without even being turned on or needing to seek out something sexual, it might be that you are addicted to the pleasure stimulation that your brain receives from it. I think if you are doing it at work, it may be your form of stress relief. Next time before you head to the bathroom, try to stop and think about what you are really feeling at the moment. If it is stress from the pile of work, try to take a break from it by doing something else besides going to the bathroom.
  9. hg088

    hg088 Member

    I've been wondering if I'm addicted to porn/masturbation. I dedicate about 45mins per day to it on average and only do it at night before bed. I do it on 5 of 7 days on average. It's not really interfering with my daily activities, but I feel I can put this time to a better use, maybe even just resting would be better. I've tried stopping but that hasn't gone so well. Am I addicted or just mentally weak?
  10. 6up

    6up Community Champion

    That behaviour can affect your future love life. You'll find that you don't have time for your partner. How did it start? If someone influenced you to, then you should completely stop it. Most people get influenced to masturbating while they are in high school or college. You need to know that one time you'll get a partner to satisfy your needs.
  11. Davienna

    Davienna Community Champion

    I have tried that, not only is it a form of stress relief for me but it also enables me to perform better. If the day is boring it also gives me that little adrenaline rush to put a smile on my face but I am too reliant on that only.
  12. Davienna

    Davienna Community Champion

    It was recommended by an ex who I wasn't seeing often enough. It helps me to relax too, so in the nights when I cannot sleep I just do it and get a comfortable sleep. I am bothered about the disadvantages and the after effects.
  13. Davienna

    Davienna Community Champion

    I enjoy porn only when I am masturbating and as soon as I climax I would just turn it off. Maybe if I was starring my own movies I would not have been so inclined. I don't ever masturbate without turning on porn. That 45 minutes could be dedicated to something else you enjoy though but do it step by step. Take a day break then gradually increase your NO PORN days.
  14. explorerx7

    explorerx7 Senior Contributor

    Don't knock yourself too much. Go seek out the advice from a qualified source, which may enable you to better understand why you are doing it and if it's serious as you may believe. Through that intervention, you probably may be better able cope with the situation
  15. Davienna

    Davienna Community Champion

    Thank you Explorer but sometimes a little pat on the shoulder does help. I will be seeking professional advice/ counselling soon.
  16. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    I think you should just cut back on how much. Most of all don't use any kind of porn that's really addictive itself. Find other ways to relieve stress like meditation or exercise. It's true that orgasms can relieve stress, but if you can't go to work without masturbating that's too much. I think it will feel much better if you do it less any way, because you won't desensitize yourself.
  17. Davienna

    Davienna Community Champion

    Thanks pal. Thats what i am presently trying but it's easier said than done. I have also met someone who I think I'll get intimate with eventually. I just hope it will help me, trying to think about him instead of masturbating and watching porn.
  18. DangerSuit

    DangerSuit Member

    Have you looked into the NoFap community? It sounds like a silly name, but they are a group of people who have made the decision to abstain from that behaviour as they feel it negatively impacts their lives. They are a brave bunch who openly talk about the struggles they have faced with their affliction and the coping strategies they use.

    They often refer to this video - it is by a guy who studied porn's effect on the brain and found it to be detrimental. You may also find it useful.
  19. JerPostr98

    JerPostr98 Member

    I've heard of the no fap community before, and perhaps this is something you might want to look into, Davienna. It isn't always for everyone, but you might as well give it a shot. I was able to stop for roughly a month thanks to this community. However, after the month, I decided to pick up the bad habit again "just everyone once and a while". Unfortunately, I ended up spiraling out of control and I am now back into the everyday addictive routine. Oh well. Maybe I should give abstinence another shot.
  20. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Agree that you need to find other ways to make you relax or be busy with that are not stressful. Maybe try to be engaged on sports or volunteering activities. Try to avoid watching porn too as much as you could.