My bf of 5 years has come and told me and his parents that he is struggling with addiction for 4 years. He was abusing painkillers on and off for 4 years and we had no idea. In retrospect, it is all so clear. It started with snorting oxi's, turned into dilaudid, and in the couple of months leading up to him asking to go to rehab, it turned into snorting heroin, because its cheaper. It's been 2 months that he's in rehab and seems to be doing great. The put him on suboxone, which I was upset about in the beginning, but came to terms with it. He had made the decision to start weaning off already and is Half way there. This had really tested my love for him. Did I mention we are 30 years old? We've been planning a life together. I just don't have much insight in my family or friend circle when it comes to this. I am 100% stocking by him but need to express to him at some point the anger, disappointment, lack if trust, etc. I just don't know when or how that comes about in a healthy manner. These past 2 months its been about how much we love and miss rag other and how much I support him and how bad he wants to help himself so we can have the life we planned. But I don't want these suppressed "bad" feelings to get swept away and then turn into resentment, and/or I flip out about it down the road. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. How do you express the anger and hurt? How do you Learn to trust again?