Hello, My brother has had addiction and mental health issues since adolescence. In recent years his addiction has escalated to the point that his wife has an order of protection against him for herself and her two young children. My parents enable my brother, are codependent with him and deeply enmeshed in his life, and take care of his kids full time. This leaves my parents with almost no time or energy for me and my family (I have a young child with whom my parents barely spend any time). The extreme imbalance in time and effort my parents give my brother and his family vs me and my family is causing building resentment and hurt with my wife and I to the point that we are actually talking about becoming estranged from my parents altogether. We have tried talking to them about it many times but they are as sick as my brother so nothing ever changes. We have proposed family therapy but they just say they're not "therapy people " and refuse to participate. My parents say the situation with my brother and his kids is a "crisis" and they are managing it as best they can. However, we feel they are choosing to babysit his kids some 50 hours per week when they could simply ask their mother to put them in daycare and have more time for us. Any advice? Are my wife and I being unreasonable? I would be interested to hear from anyone who has had similar experience. Thanks for reading.