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My fiancé is addicted to subutex.

Discussion in 'Share Your Story Here' started by Tired1234, Aug 28, 2018.

  1. Tired1234

    Tired1234 Member

    About a month ago I found out my fiancé has been using subutex for 3 years behind my back, he was taking a half a pill a day. He agreed to cut down and eventually taper off. Well he did cut down but he was making up for it by taking kalonapins and trying to hide that he was on them. He took a drug test and failed for those, subutex and pain pills. Well 4 days ago I found I seen a message asking one of his friends for a half of a sub so now he’s quitting cold turkey. How can I help him through this withdrawal? And how can I help him stay off of them? He’s always had a problem, but I assumed he was clean all this time so it’s hard to believe anything he says anymore.
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  2. True concern

    True concern Moderator

    First off to help him he must truly want to do this him self,if he is going to do this cold turkey he is going to be very sick and may at times washout and say thing's that are mean,don't take it personally as when you go cold turkey everything hurts and everything aggravates you so his outburst will stem from the physical agony he will be in..Be supportive not pushy and if he really wants this you will both make it through it,before I go any further let me say i AM NOT a Dr and medical detox really is the most effective safest way to go but some can't afford that and I was one of those people so what i advise is from personal experience. He will need to stay hydrated and adding a multivitamin once a day will help his internal organs from going through to much depending on the actual dose he takes a day like what pain pills?what mgs? How many a day?He will need to eat and he won't feel like it but its a must to resupply strength that he will lose sitting on the toilet,I recommend the softest toilet paper you can find as well as baby wipes with lotion in them.If he won't eat get him some Ensure to fill the void and supply substance similar to food.This process all depends on the 100% truth of what exactly he is taking like everything all of it you need to know and don't get mad if he tells you worry about being mad once he is done detoxing and is no longer using.If and when he gets through his detox DO NOT waste time and immediately seek counseling and start NA meetings right away.Recovery is a life long process but detoxing definitely comes first.Maybe a good food would be a high quality yogurt with natural ingredients. I hope this help's and please keep us posted.Stay Strong and God Bless the Both of You
  3. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Tired1234... Welcome to the community and thanks for sharing with us. I'm sorry to hear about the struggles you're going through with your fiancé.

    @True concern is right: Quitting cold turkey is extremely difficult and uncomfortable. If there's any way your fiancé can get into a medically supervised detox program, I highly recommend that. But if that's not an option, take the advice @True concern offered about how to make your fiancé feel as good as possible during the ordeal. I also think it would be a good idea for your fiancé to see an addiction specialist and/or a therapist who specializes in treating people with addiction. Support group meetings like NA, AA, or SMART Recovery would be helpful, too. You should also consider going to Nar-Anon or Al-Anon meetings for yourself, because when someone we love is battling addiction, we all need to work on our OWN recovery.

    We are here to help and support you any way we can. If you need support, advice, or just a place to vent, you can come back here anytime you'd like. We will always listen.

    Sending you lots of love and light today. And sending healing energy to your fiancé.
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  4. Dominica

    Dominica Recovery Advocate @ Moving Beyond Codependency Community Listener

    @Tired1234 good morning! just wanted to see how you're doing.... let us know when you get a chance. We're here for you!
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