@Bella1990 hi there. thanks for reaching out. i'm sorry you're having to go through this. addiction can certainly put a strain on a marriage.
you shouldn't have to continue like this. being on the opposite end of an addict is challenging... you want to be able to help him, but you're limited. he's got to want to change...
here starts your journey... a journey trying to navigate life with an addict, or life leaving an addict if things stay the same...
here's a great article to read that goes over a lot of things that will be helpful to you.... i'll also leave a link to a great short guide that can help you... start educating yourself on addiction and things like "al anon" or "nar anon". family members of addicts can learn how to best take care of themselves....during the rough time. it's easy to get wrapped up in the addicts world and go emotionally crazy... so effort will be necessary to learn how to practice self-care...
here's the article:
https://www.recovery.org/topics/how-to-help-a-loved-one-with-addiction/
here's the short guide:
https://the20minuteguide.com/partners/introduction-partners-guide/
i will say this will be an opportunity for you learn how to set (and keep) firm boundaries. husband or not, you're not responsible to give him money... and if you do, you're enabling him to continue using. he must face consequences of his using, or he'll have no reason to want to stop. no money...his fault. not yours. and if he knows you want him to quit, again, setting and keeping a boundaries are necessary. support groups like al-anon or nar-anon are great at helping you learn some great ways to set boundaries and get through this... consider attending meetings.
does this help?
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