I kind of knew but really found out when my husband was to report for house arrest for a completely different reason (driving under suspension) and they kept him. He tested positive for meth and they revoked his house arrest. He told me he just used that once with a friend because he was trying to get things done before he was stuck in the house for 30 days. Well, I know this was not true because I had found numerous baggies and rolled up dollar bills, or broken pens throughout his laundry over the past 8 months. I had confronted him a few times, and he would deny that it was his. Saying he took it from other people so they didn't use it. He was hanging around this awful crowd of people, insisting he was helping them. He wasn't getting any of his things done, and was spending all his time "helping" these people. He was out for days at a time, coming home to occasionally eat, argue, and get changed. Then he was out the door again. Telling me story after story. Well, hes still away with 8 days remaining on his 30 day sentence. During this time, I had to use our kindle, which he was using for a short time. Passcode locked. (as well as his phone being locked). I had to reset the passcode on the kindle, and to my suprise..up popped NUMEROUS messages from his facebook. I spent hours reading them all and found out the truth. The women, the transactions, what he was really doing when he told me he was doing other things. I did confront him over the phone in tears, and he was silent, and apologizing, Saying he didn't know why he did that. I am continuing to be there for him because I love him. We have been together for 24 years and have 2 older children (23 and 15). I also am trying to learn more about this addiction and am trying to understand that everything he has done, was not him. It was the meth. I have found numerous dildos, lube, and other sex toys that I KNEW we never used. I have literally thrown out at least 30 of them in the past months. Id find them in his car...lube hidden in his shoes..I KNEW something was going on, but everytime I brought it up, which was rare, he DENIED everything, Saying he bought them for us (knowing Im not a huge fan) and how dare I accuse him!! He was very defensive and would often lead to a blow out argument and then he'd leave again. I have visited him, talked on the phone everyday, and he seems like the old guy I love and married. He also wants to move, and has me looking at houses. In another state. Says he wants to just get away. I am hoping this is what he really wants and its not jail talking. I still check the facebook messages almost daily and some of these people are still trying to contact him. My worry is when he gets home, and gets back on his phone!! He says hes done, and wants all these people to leave him alone. I just need some input. Is there hope that this is really over???