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Navigating your social life sober: Tips & tricks

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by JoanMcWench, Apr 27, 2015.

  1. JoanMcWench

    JoanMcWench Community Champion

    I thought this would be a good place to have a section where members add ways to make navigating your social life a tad easier now that you're sober. It seems that people have a pretty difficult time negotiating that world sober. It's probably second to depression in the book of 'things that help people fall off the wagon'.

    My suggestion is you have to own that you are sober wherever you go. You can walk around with your obligatory seltzer & lime but don't avoid discussing your sobriety. Make it clear & don't feel like it's awkward. It's not. A person who needs to get drunk to enjoy themselves should feel awkward. Not you.
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  2. sillylucy

    sillylucy Community Champion

    Now that I am sober it is a little hard for my friends to ask me out. Some of them always want to go to bars and they will txt me things like "You don't have to drink!" They don't really understand that just being in that setting will make me want a drink so bad and it is putting my sobriety at risk.
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  3. missbishi

    missbishi Community Champion

    I totally get this! Like you're going to be happy and content sat there with a Coke (the soda) whilst you are surrounded by alcohol. One tip for friends of those in recovery would be to suggest going to places where people don't drink - like the movies or a gallery.
  4. JoshPosh

    JoshPosh Community Champion

    You have a point. Just take charge and be assertive. Let them know where you stand, and that's the bottom line. Why hide it? Celebrate your sobriety with confidence and charisma.
  5. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    That's a good suggestion, JoanMcWench! I know a lot of people that feel ashamed of their sobriety status, just because they feel that they'll be portrayed badly in the real world.
    It's only something subconcious, a lot of people don't care if you drink or not. You just have to be proud that you beat a very bad addiction.
  6. adfnio

    adfnio Community Champion

    You shouldn't be ashamed of sobriety. If anyone doesn't like it or has a problem with, that's on them. Be the man of the hour and stand alone.
  7. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Yeah, flaunt your sobriety. You've worked hard to be able to successfully beat your addictions. You should be proud of it. ;)