My husband and I have been together for 19 years and have two girls, 13 and 8. He has always had an issue with addiction, first alcohol, then pain pills, and now cocaine. I just found out last week about the cocaine. About a month and a half ago he stopped giving me money from his paychecks, saying he had to help his mother out with money. Up to this point he had never lied to me and I know how his mother is, so I had no reason to doubt him. Fast forward to last Friday when I went to check my personal bank account (which he is not on) and found that I was missing over $1000. I called the bank and had my atm card cancelled since I thought someone had gotten a hold of my card#. Later that day I told my husband about it and he said "Yeah, that was me, I'm sorry" I was furious! He works afternoons and comes home after I go to bed, he had been going into my purse and taking my atm card and getting money out. So, he's been buying coke with his money, my money, and even goes as far as taking the kids allowance money from them! He's now constantly lying to me. His dealer, who is a female, is sending weird symbols in texts to me and calling the house because his phone was shut off. He says he's not cheating on me but how can I believe a word he says. He told me to take control of his money so he can't get the drugs but when I try to he just finds ways of circumventing me. Sorry for the long rant but I have no friends and can't talk to my family about this. My head is spinning and I don't know what to do.