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Discussion in 'Share Your Story Here' started by stuck, Jan 4, 2016.

  1. stuck

    stuck Member

    My son has a substance abuse problem, but before the doctors are willing to get into his substance abuse issues, they want him to be treated for his depression/mental health issues. But the psychiatrists won't treat him for the mental health issues until his addiction issues are under control. We live in Cincinnati and have private insurance with a high deductible,and his school drug counselor group only recommends beckett springs. I'm not sold on that place because so many reviews say they are one of the more expensive places and there were many bad experiences posted about that place. Can anyone recommend a substance abuse facility that is somewhat affordable (we don't qualify for low income) and treats both mental health and substance abuse?
  2. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    I guess that's the same question asked every time. But it's all right. Rest assured you're not alone. Many people around the world are going through the same thing. How do you want to make a turn for the better, though? How old is your son? Teenagers are usually placed in a different facility from adults since they have very specific therapy and emotional needs. Perhaps this site might help:
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  3. stuck

    stuck Member

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    He just turned 16.
  4. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    @stuck... Welcome to the community and thanks for sharing with us. I'm sorry you're going through this with your son. As the father of a 26-year-old son in long-term recovery from heroin addiction, who also suffers from depression/anxiety, I know exactly what you're going through. My son's issues started at 15, so I can relate.

    I have to admit, I'm a little surprised to hear about the unwillingness for either "team" to treat your son. My son's psychiatrist and therapist treated him while he was still using, so what you're going through is unfamiliar to me. In any case, there are a lot of facilities that specialize in dual diagnosis treatment, because addiction and mental health issues so frequently go hand-in-hand. I'm just wondering: Has your son by chance seen an addiction specialist? They can do an assessment and recommend the best course of action for treatment. I don't think they would require him to have a clean bill of mental health before doing so, either. (Although I could be wrong.)

    You may want to check out the American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM) website and use their "Physician Finder" tool to see if there's a doctor in your area you could go to. Just a suggestion.

    Actually, I did a search for Cincinnati on the site and it returned 13 results. Here's a link to that search:

    Cincinnati ASAM Doctor Search

    Please know that we're here to help and support you any way we can. If you need to reach out, please don't hesitate. You are also free to contact me via private message if I can be of any help.

    Lastly, I started a blog back in 2008 about my experiences with my son and his addiction. You might find parts of it helpful. The link is below. If you start with the earliest posts, you can get an idea of what my family went through.

    My Life as 3D

    I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    Sending you peace and hugs.

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  5. ReadmeByAmy

    ReadmeByAmy Community Champion

    @stuck hello and welcome to this forum! I am sorry to hear what had happened to your son and what he is going through with his addiction. I knew as a parent it is hard for you to see your son in that situation and will sacrifice everything just to make him well. You said that you are not sure where to begin. Don't lose hope because there are still better days to come in your son's life. Keep on praying and be strong for your son. Life is beautiful that is why don't lose hope in your life.
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  6. oportosanto

    oportosanto Community Champion

    I think you are headed in the right direction and I am sorry you are going through that. If you don't mind me asking, is your son willing to get clean?
  7. Dwayneu

    Dwayneu Community Champion

    Hey @stuck, I am so sorry that your son is gripped by these terrible problems. I wonder, if perhaps he has had long-term depression, maybe that would be the root cause for a lot of his problems, so I would personally focus on tackling that and then looking towards the symptoms(such as addictive behavior). In any case, I hope you find the best option for his recovery, you need to be strong for him. Good luck!
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  8. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    That sounds like a terribly difficult situation. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I think you have gotten some very good suggestions to pursue. FYI, my son had similar issues as a teen ager...although the only thing he ever used was pot and mushrooms. I ended up having to send him to a residential facility..hardest thing I ever did in my life. Even though he hated it...I think it was good for him...and helped him get back on track..He has an awesome job today..and is doing quite there is hope.
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  9. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    So sorry to hear that you are going through with your son. I am glad that he is taking the steps that are needed to get clean. It is great to have support from parents. I wish you and your son all the best. Hope you are able to find some help for him soon.
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  10. PingPongCall

    PingPongCall Active Contributor

    That's really shitty to hear, a doctor of mine also wanted to have me treated for depression. Despite the obvious severity of my situation.

    I think you'll have a great time here finding support. These people are really great.
  11. Winterybella

    Winterybella Community Champion

    You started at the right place Stuck...the beginning. I am down here in the Caribbean so I can't offer any suggestions when it comes to facilities. However, I am confident that the resources and suggestions recommended by Dean and others could be useful for you and your son.

    I know you have come the right place and you can be comfortable knowing that you will find love and support here. We might not have all the answers but we most certainly will do whatever we can to help you and your from our distance. Welcome to your new home away from home.
    Last edited: Feb 19, 2016
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  12. oportosanto

    oportosanto Community Champion

    When the situation seems complex and confuse, we need to be simple. If your son wants to quit and you are willing to help the next step is to find a facility to continue the process.
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  13. PingPongCall

    PingPongCall Active Contributor

    True and it will probably be very tough to do it and he will most likely fight you every step of the way, but you have to do it. For both your sakes.
  14. juno

    juno Community Champion

    You definitely need an in patient treatment center that will deal with all the issues as a whole and this will require a 24 hour treatment facility.
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  15. oportosanto

    oportosanto Community Champion

    One thing experience has taught me is that if the addict doesn't want to recover, he won't do it. We can do all we want, but the person has to want to quit.
  16. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    Hi there :) I hope things are going better for you and your son, so far Dean and other members have offered you some really useful info. I hope your son can get the help he so desperately needs, if we can help you further please let us know, we are always here to help. Specially if you or your son needs someone to talk to, maybe you could tell him about this forum as well?
  17. Winterybella

    Winterybella Community Champion

    @stuck, I notice you have not been back here for some time. Please let us know how things are going. I hope there has been improvement.
  18. djdrug

    djdrug Community Champion

    Welcome to the forum. I hope all is well with you and you were able to utilize one of the resources provided by the forum members to solve your son's problems. In my opinion, it is best to go to whichever place you feel would provide the best care for your son. Sometimes, Doctors are incentivized to recommend certain places, so I would take any advice regarding which facilities to go to, with a grain of salt.
  19. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    That's quite a tough time, both institutions don't want your son to be treated until they get rid of the other "issue" first. I think you should treat your son's addiction issues first. I think sending him to rehab will be best. Try to get him into counseling too, you'll never know, someone might suggest an affordable treatment facility for your son.
  20. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Hello there, @stuck! Welcome to the forum, and thanks for sharing. I am sorry to hear about the struggle you're currently going through. I know it must be really difficult for a parent like you to see your own child suffering from mental health and addiction issues, but hang in there. I'm pretty sure you'll be able to overcome these problems soon. I would be praying for the both of you. Keep us posted.