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One of those days

Discussion in 'General Substance Abuse Discussion' started by kana_marie, Mar 23, 2015.

  1. jeremy2

    jeremy2 Community Champion

    I guess if people see nothing wrong with how you interact with them then there's no need to worry. There's no need to get paranoid or get anxious over nothing. I believe this is just a phase in your life and it will eventually pass.
  2. Profit5500

    Profit5500 Senior Contributor

    Well it just means that you have a lot of stress. Your anxiety is really hurting you and your past life is just recurring over and over. You need to get some fresh air and get over what was behind you and try to be positive.
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  3. Shirley

    Shirley Member

    Thanks for your opinion.
  4. Matthodge1

    Matthodge1 Community Champion

    This too shall pass. I know that quote was already thrown around on this particular thread, but I have come to realize that that quote is one of the most helpful and powerful quotes that are out there.
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  5. kana_marie

    kana_marie Community Champion

    I know you're right. But when those days happen I'm incapable of reason I guess. I have come to recognize that they are all in my head. You'd think that wod help. But, regardless of how much logic I preach to myself, I am 100% convinced that there is something I forgot or don't know about yet that I need to stress over. I just want to stay in bed all day and not talk to anyone. You are absolutely right, though. I need to get some fresh air before it happens again. I always try to cope with it rather than trying to prevent it.
  6. kana_marie

    kana_marie Community Champion

    Thank you! It really helps to have a place to go just to get things off your chest sometimes. I don't have contact with anyone who has been in my situation... so they don't always understand
  7. Profit5500

    Profit5500 Senior Contributor

    Just see if you can take it easy for a while. I know I am having a tough time trying to find work and I get bum out when I get rejected. It just means that I try to get the next one.
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  8. sazzydan

    sazzydan Active Contributor

    This is normal, completely normal. I would not worry too much about it to be honest and you have done the right think by venting. Too many people bottle up their feelings which is when they explode and go back to old ways, so great start.

    I think if it only lasts a day, it is not too much of a problem, but I would suggest trying a new activity on days like this. Grab some headphones and joggers, and take yourself on a run. This makes you feel good and will give you time to think about the future and why you are much better off now you are clean. I find this to be one of the best things to do in any stressful situation and also keeps you in shape too!
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  9. kana_marie

    kana_marie Community Champion

    I like that idea a lot! As mentioned earlier, the fresh air now and during the freak outs will help. I think I'm going to start doing that in the next day or so. Like @Profit5500 said, I should take a breather right now, anyway.
  10. Sparkster

    Sparkster Community Champion

    Believe it or not, this is actually one of those common insecurities that all people have to deal with to some extent but nobody talks about it. Everybody has a tendency to this and to look back and reflect on certain conversations or statements that were made, wondering if it meant something else or if there was perhaps a deeper meaning. It's just that some people do it more than others. Depression and other similar mental health illnesses can cause a person to do this more, or they may just be more aware of it happening and may believe they are over-thinking things.
  11. kana_marie

    kana_marie Community Champion

    That's exactly what happens. I was in wal-mart one day and heard someone say the car better be unlocked. I suddenly couldn't remember if they said locked or unlocked. I decided the said locked and it was because they saw me. I tried to think of e everyone it could have been. When I really thought about it later I realized they said unlocked because it was -6 degrees outside.
  12. PrideKidd

    PrideKidd Active Contributor

    I too have found this forum and the recovery forums helpful in my recovery. I will be eight years clean on May 16th!! I find solace in these forums because the people are VERY friendly, and non-judgemental. We all share our trials and tribulations in these kind of forums when there really is no other place to try and help people from making the same horrible mistakes I made. If I can even help one person then I feel validated in trying to help. It is a long hard road but from where I am sitting now, every day just gets easier. :) @kana_marie I am glad you found us! :)
  13. kana_marie

    kana_marie Community Champion

    Thank you! I have had a few rough days over the past while, and having everyone here to talk to has made it so much easier! Congratulations on 8 years! That is really awesome. You really should be proud!
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  14. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    You seem like a very strong person and I admire you for that!
    I share your problems too but I found out that 99% of the people you meet won't judge you because they value you as a person. Those who judge you are non-important anyways so you shouldn't worry about them!
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  15. kana_marie

    kana_marie Community Champion

    Your post reminded me of one of my favorite quotes,"the people who matter don't mind and the people who mind don't matter". I think it's Dr Suess quote. Yours was a lot more fitting, though.
    I dont how strong I am, but definitely more determined than ever. Thank you for what you said, seriously!
  16. imperivm1

    imperivm1 Community Champion

    Venting is a cunning solution to your problem. It's much better than reaching for the pills, anyway. If you don't have access to the internet to speak your soul then a great alternative would be just finding someone to talk to. Letting your feelings out can help you out immensely. You're doing terrific so far so simply keep up the pace and don't be afraid to share and it'll all work out for the best in the end!
  17. TommyVercetti

    TommyVercetti Community Champion

    A lot of us have these days as well, when your mind decides to be contemplative; when you feel like you've done something wrong or took a wrong turn, but you just can't put your finger on what it is that you did exactly. When you think about it, it's a sign of maturity; it's a sign that you have put it upon yourself to be accountable.
  18. PrideKidd

    PrideKidd Active Contributor

    You are quite welcome. I had a slip in my first years clean and got busted in the process, needless to say it was a stark reminder of why I quit. Everyone who has been a true addict has those tempting moments where the fleeting thought of their old favorite go to drug, it is inevitable. The trick is learning to manage those thoughts and feelings in a positive, healthy manor. :) Again Congrats!!
  19. kana_marie

    kana_marie Community Champion

    To tell you how healthy my coping abilities are... The last time I thought aboutnanpain pill, my first thought was "If I had a benzo I'd get over REAL quick"
    Silly, yeah?
  20. oraclemay

    oraclemay Community Champion

    I used be that way and always think I may have done something wrong. I began to get over this once I realized I was the only one who thought this. It was then that I realized the way I perceived things was distorted and I could begin to change that now. It takes time, but you get there. The good thing about feeling this way is that you know it 'comes to pass', it never stays for long. It always gets better. We all go through similar experiences. I remember feeling so bad and fearful that I would be unable to talk. My words would not come out. The thing is to identify the stress that is causing you to feel this way and remove it. Something in your environment may be stressing you out or acting as a trigger for these attacks.
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