My husband and I adopted a beautiful 9 year old little girl last year. Let's say her name is Anna. Anna was in the foster care system for nearly three years when she came to us, and was abused in both foster homes she was placed in before she came here. Her parents were two young teenage drug addicts and her mother used pills, heroine, cocaine and alcohol, as far as we know. Anna is adjusting to living with us on every level except lying and sneaking things in regard to food. She gets plenty of food to eat, but will go to the kitchen and sneak food when she isn't hungry, even right after meals. She admits that she's not hungry. She lies to hide that she has done things like this, and out of the house tries to eat as much as possible, though we make her lunch and there's plenty of it. She has a wheat allergy, and a dairy sensitivity, and this makes things worse. All she wants is wheat and dairy. She has been "dropping" her lunch on the floor at school so that she can get a hot lunch, all wheat and often dairy. Even though the teacher in charge knew of her allergy, she was sending her to get a hot lunch all the time and not reporting it to us. We've been dealing with Anna's digestive issues at home, and rereading every label on food packages to see if we missed gluten or wheat anywhere. Finally I realized that she must be eating wheat and dairy at school and confronted Anna and the teacher. Both of them told me what's been happening. The worst part of all of this is the lying. She lies perfectly and you'd never guess that she's doing it. But I have a radar for lying. We are in family therapy with a great therapist who says that while we have provided a safe, loving and structured home for her, Anna still doesn't feel safe because of what happened to her before she got here. The therapist does not want me to point out when Anna is lying. She wants me to only encourage and praise her for the things she's doing well. I worry that with markers for drug addiction on both sides of her family, that we are ignoring where she is headed. Lying and sneaking things to me seems to already be the behavior of an addict. I thought I would tell you our story before it IS a story, in the hopes that if we do everything the best we can, she will not end up being an addict. Thank you.