I have found that many people on this site seem to think that they have the answers to all life's questions. Yes you may be committed to your sobriety and are good at maintaining it but what works for you isn't always good for everyone else. Considering that everyone has their own reasons for drinking and have different life paths and ways, it is extremely difficult to give advice based on a few things someone wrote. It is important for people to be as detailed as possible when asking for advice because if the advice giver does not understand the entire gist of your issue related to addiction, it will be of no help and onyl as good as what you can look up on the net yourself. My advice to the advice givers is to hold off for a second and ask questions before jumping right in. That's the only logical way to give good advice. You must simply know what is going on. Everyone's journey is different.