A few years back, a friend of mine came to me with a confession, he thought that his alcohol usage might have transformed into an addiction - I was initially shocked, never having seen him as the type of person who could possess such a self-destructive character trait, however, so was he, indeed. He had been in denial for a long time before coming to me. We sat down and looked at the facts as they were, both being social drinkers and college buddies, we had never experienced our alcohol consumption as anything else than social. But lately it had taken a turn for the worse, we felt drawn towards social gatherings including alcohol, even on weekdays, not because we needed the social activity, but because of the alcohol, and the feeling of carelessness that was associated with it. He told me he felt as if his life was falling apart due to the choices he made, and made me aware of the 3 observations he had made since he started drinking actively. His grades were falling, as was his overall engagement in course-related activities He would often feel the overshadowing need to go drinking, regardless of day or place He would often ignore social activities that did not include drinking (family gatherings notwitholding) in lieu of going drinking. Assessing these key difference in his day-to-day life, it became apparent to us, that he was indeed sacrificing part of his over all life's structure for his drinking habits. After coming to me, I functioned as his sponsor, keeping check with him often to see what decisions he was making for his daily activities, and he eventually turned his habits around. The reason I am writing this is simple - recognising self-destructive behaviour, is KEY, in culling a potential abuse developing. If you are in a situation where you are not sure if your alcohol consumption is starting to get the upper hand on you, confess your worry to a friend, and go through the daily choices you make carefully, sometimes an addiction can't be recognised until you have another persons eyes on it.