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Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by Nicoleforrest28, May 17, 2018.

  1. I've been hearing so many people talking about how people in their lives are on dope and they just need to get a grip on life and just stop using. Recovery is really so much more than just not using. Once a person becomes addicted their brain will never be the same because using drugs effects you in so many ways. When a person starts using they feel amazing like they can concur the world it's literally the best feeling in the entire world...even compared to having children or finding your soulmate. It's a very personal happiness and THAT is what makes a person continue to use and become an addict. That is when things will spiral. They will become dependant on feeling That way ALL the time and therefore they end up losing everything basically. Sobriety is a full time job that a person must choose to be a part of every single day. Once you "just stop" using drugs your brain immediately goes into survival mode and you must rewire it to maintain sobriety. Every day you will have to talk yourself out of doing things that will jeaprodize your life and most likely that's going to cause depression or anger problems or some sort of mental health issues and that's where most fail because instead of dealing with the mental issues (addiction being one on top of it) your natural survival instinct is to provide your brain with whatever to feel normal. But like I said if you train your brain or rewire your brain to do other things even if it's as simple as making your bed everyday or sitting outside for 10 minutes a day. Addicts need distraction. I will say it again addicts need a distraction! One little thing that doesnt take much effort but will give them a sense of accomplishment. After the effort is made for all of those things then they will be able to concur sobriety and it's still a hit or miss then because things like "I can have one drink" "it's been so long, I'm in control now" take effect. Learn to control your thoughts and you will learn to control your life. Understand you are never in control and it all starts with that "one drink" or "one pill" know that it is so ok to ask for help and talk about your issues it is very very crucial to seek help on bad days and just talk... to anyone.. if anything that'll help the social skills and more than likely you'll have positive feedback. Every emotion needs to be felt. Feel it all. Feeling is a beautiful thing! Good luck to anyone going through the addiction/recovery process. This will not happen in a day but it is possible and possible to feel "normal" and happy again. It all starts with a thought and an action!
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  2. Dominica

    Dominica Recovery Advocate @ Moving Beyond Codependency Community Listener

    @Nicoleforrest28 thank you for sharing. You do have some really good insight and points in your message . Sounds like you've been in the recovery field for a while. Really appreciate your presence here in the forum .
  3. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    Great post, @Nicoleforrest28! Sobriety IS a full-time job! And yes, feeling is a beautiful thing! It's amazing to be able to feel life on life's terms, without the aid of a mind-altering substance. Thanks for inflicting some positivity on us today, my friend. I hope to see you around these forums more in the future. :)
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  4. Josh111187

    Josh111187 Community Champion

    I don't know how I missed this but it's so true I'm going on three months completely clean (using only meds as prescribed) and been mostly sober for about a little less than a year. I find myself crying at cartoons but I don't care because I had forgotten how completely wonderful it is to feel. The other day I was working in my garden and said to my son do you feel that? And he asked me what? I think he thought it was crazy it was just the breeze. I couldn't remember the last time I had felt a cool breeze!
  5. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    That's beautiful, @Josh111187. Feeling life as it was meant to be felt--it's a wonderful thing, isn't it? Proud of you!
  6. True concern

    True concern Moderator

    @Nicoleforrest28 What you say is true and it sounds simple enough but the challenge is how to make an addict understand?If we all had the exact same chances in life,if we were all raised exactly the same would we all turn out the same?The brain and mental health issues are key and compound the problem in several ways,but did we have these mental health issue's before that first drink,or pill,or line,or whatever it is?As i comb through the stories on this site i see many similarities in many and at the same time i see just as many differences.I try to absorb the information and play it out in my mind as best i can and obviously i can't understand everyone and everything completely about every story even though they all come around to the same thing which is addiction and the fight to overcome it.I often ask myself why,i often struggle myself,i often spend my day's racking my brain trying to make sense of something that doesn't,i often wonder what happened to this person or what triggered the start of addiction and i have no idea as i am not that person.It's wonderful to see people helping people and you gave alot of great insight and i as a recovering addict appreciate that so thank you for caring and i hope and pray each and every one struggling finds a way to overcome and change their lives for the better.Stay Strong and God Bless
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  7. Cametobelieve0202

    Cametobelieve0202 Community Champion

    I couldn’t have said it better myself! :) beautifully put!
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  8. True concern

    True concern Moderator

    Month's later I just re read this post.Absolutely spot on,well said,beautifully written and I agree:)
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