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Relapse

Discussion in 'Methamphetamine / Meth' started by ItCantBeTooLateCanIt?, Dec 24, 2017.

  1. Recently had my first relapse with continued use and now it’s gets on long term use worse than before. I want to stop
  2. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    @ItCantBeTooLateCanIt?... I'm sorry to hear about your relapse, but I'm glad you reached out. Please don't look at your relapse as a complete failure, okay? Relapse is part of the disease called addiction. In fact, there are very few people who find recovery without relapsing.

    Think of your relapse as more of a "slip-up." It's something that happened, but it's something you can learn from. You just have to pick yourself up, brush yourself, and get back on the right path again. I like to look at recovery as a learned behavior. And like other learned behaviors, it takes practice. If you were trying to learn how to speak a foreign language, you wouldn't expect to be perfect at it right from the start, would you? Of course not! You would practice, make mistakes, learn from those mistakes, practice some more, make more mistakes, etc. But you would get better at it as time went by and pretty soon you would master it. Try to think of getting clean and sober in the same way. It's about progress, not perfection. The goal isn't to be perfect; it's to be better than you were yesterday.

    You can do this, my friend. But you have to work hard at it. Are you going to any support meetings? They can really help. What about seeing an addiction specialist? Or doing inpatient or outpatient treatment? The more tools you use to help you learn, the better the chances of success. But always remember: Relapse is NOT failure.

    Here's a video I made a while back. Maybe something I say in it will resonate with you. In the meantime, I'm sending you positive, sober vibes and tons of encouragement and hope.

  3. I attend AA (I find too many familiar faces at NA) meetings daily after a slip up and then it gets sporadic until it stops completely. Just scared cause this slip is the worst I’ve ever had. At least it scares me more than any other has before
  4. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    Keep going to the AA meetings, @ItCantBeTooLateCanIt?. Don't let your attendance become sporadic or stop completely. Keep doing the work. If you don't, you'll just fall back into the same trap again.
  5. Terk

    Terk Member

    I've just came down off my recent relapse. Taking everything in me not to go to my guys house and find my escape. Over a year clean before this weekend. Scared for my future, everything was going so great. I haven't the foggiest what came over me. After months of cravings I gave in. Hang in there, it's scary but if I can get clean again so can you bud.
  6. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    @Terk... I'm sending you lots of positive, sober vibes, along with the emotional strength to stay away from your guy's house. Take things an hour or minute at a time. Whatever it takes to keep you on the right path. Using again will NOT make things better long-term. It's only a temporary solution. You can do this, my friend.
  7. Terk

    Terk Member

    ImCurrently dealing with my wife screaming at me. Trying to remain calm but finding it difficult.
  8. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    Your wife has every right to be angry, but screaming at you isn't the answer. Tell her that's only going to make you more stressed out about everything and will make you want to use more, not less. Tell her you're going to get back on the right path, but that you need her support...not her anger.
  9. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    There's a great book out there that I think would be very helpful for your wife. It's called Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change and it's written specifically for partners and parents of people who are struggling with addiction. Maybe suggest that she get a copy. I think it will be very educational and enlightening for her. It's really the best book of its kind out there.
  10. Terk

    Terk Member

    I tried telling her basically the same thing but she's not having it not today anyway. I guess I'll be get verbal punching bag for the day.
  11. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    Maybe she'll be more receptive when things calm down a bit.