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Discussion in 'Tobacco / Nicotine' started by shorsh, Jan 28, 2016.

  1. shorsh

    shorsh Member

    I have quit smoking so many times I could write a book about how to get over the initial hump. I never have any trouble until about three months in. I start getting lazy and complacent. I stop being vigilant. I start thinking, oh I could have just one...

    The thing is, that one is always foul. Yet for some reason I keep going.

    Anyone got any tips or hints about staying quit for a long amount of time?
  2. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    I wish I did. Picking up the first one is always a mistake. I quit for 13 years. I also quit for six weeks last year. I don't smoke much now though...and i don't smoke cigarettes. I am only smoking about 3x per week now, and am trying to cut down to 1x per week. Afterawhile I think you get in the habit of not having tobacco.
  3. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    You just have to keep trying after relapses. Throw the cigarettes you have away, and start over. The more you do this the better you'll get at it. Persistence will help a lot.
  4. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    Easier said than done but you could try to use your willpower to stop yourself from lighting up. Saying "no" could make the cravings even worse so promising yourself to do it later could help. Or better still you could set small goals that can be achieved. I won't smoke for an hour. Do it again. And again.

    Never have cigarettes around and if you can avoid "smokers" stay away from them.
  5. Joethefirst

    Joethefirst Community Champion

    Have you heard of Allen Carr's "Easy way to stop smoking", if you search for it on YouTube I'm sure you will find it. It will be a great help when you feel like having a cigarette again.
  6. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    I think better to avoid even just thinking about it by making yourself busy on other things. It could be easier said than done but it is possible. Do not buy any of it and do not keep even a single cigarette in your home or within your reach. :)
  7. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    What kept me going is looking back on how much progress I made, and how terrible it would be if I were to ruin my "score" if I were to just have one cigarette. I guess keeping track of your progress may be a solution.
  8. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    Honestly I think the biggest thing for me was support. I had quit smoking for a few years before meeting my husband, and I remember once, I was particularly stressed about something going on in my life - that I went and bought a packet of cigarettes. When I got home he made me literally walk to the dumpster outside our apartment complex at the time and throw them away. He said that I'd come too far to go back to smoking - even if it was just to deal with the situation stressing me out at the time. Having him be strong with me was important. Make sure people know you don't want to smoke any more - and make sure they don't give in to you, or condone it from you. That was important for me.
  9. MichelleVL

    MichelleVL Senior Contributor

    Oh shorsh dude! I wish I had the strength to make it to the 3 months! I've never even be able to go past the first 24 hours without having a meltdown of sorts. You should really be proud of yourself. Feel pride for all those times that you've made it so far, and the next time you see those 3 months coming on, stay firm because you've already passed the biggest hurdles.
  10. Jack Wallace

    Jack Wallace Senior Contributor

    Pеоplе rеlish thе timе thеy spеnd with thеir friеnds, likе wаtсhing а gаmе аt thе spоrts bаr оr rеlаxing by thе lаkе. But if thаt timе mеаns bеing аrоund friеnds whо smоkе, yоu mаy bе еnсоurаgеd tо lеt yоur guаrd dоwn аnd light up.

    Wоrking with аn ассоuntаbility pаrtnеr оr quit-smоking соасh, idеntify situаtiоns in whiсh yоu mаy fееl inсlinеd tо smоkе. Thеn lаy оut а plаn tо dеаl with thоsе situаtiоns—whеthеr it is stеpping аwаy fоr а minutе, gоing оvеr а rеhеаrsеd pеp tаlk in yоur mind, оr tеxting а friеnd аs а distrасtiоn
  11. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    I think that is called auto-sabotage ;) I have done that a lot with my food addiction, here is no other way around though... just take a day at a time. Try to control your cravings, specially after that period of time, because it's during that period of time that you know you often give in. Old fashioned will power, that is all.
  12. Joethefirst

    Joethefirst Community Champion

    Being busy can really help keep things on track, if you have your head occupied there last thing that will cross your head is smoking.
  13. Jose

    Jose Active Contributor

    I wish I had better advice, but all I can say is don't be indulgent, it's the key to failure for everything in life. I've never been able to quit for a long time either, last year was the bigest time I have quitted smoking, I didn't smoke at all for 10 months, I haven't even realized how long I'd been off the habit, until maybe around month 8, and then that was all I could think about. Someday I decided smoking just one cigarette wouldn't hurt anybody and that was it, I was back on the habit.
  14. henry

    henry Community Champion

    Same thing happens to me. I get them down to five cigarettes a day, but when the weekend comes, and I decide to have a couple of drinks, the numbers start climbing all over again. That's why I always say that if you really want to quit, cold turkey is the only way to go.
  15. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    I think most smokers will tell the same tale, and I myself have struggled to quit smoking on a number of occasions aswell.

    At the moment I've gone down to 2 or 4 a day so I'm happy enough with that for now. I know that if I tried to stop altogether then the cravings would come back and I'd soon be up to 20 a day again.
  16. Joethefirst

    Joethefirst Community Champion

    The main problem that we face is the associations that we make. If every time you have peace of gum with your coffee, you will associate the two together. If you have a coffee you feel like having a cigarette.
  17. ejorman1010

    ejorman1010 Senior Contributor

    Try to find a hobby that you can go to anytime you feel a strong craving. Lets say you take up a sport like basketball or tennis. Anytime you get a craving, just switch your mind directly to tennis or basketball. Go locate a basketball and look for the closest basketball court.
  18. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    Breaking that habit and association is key to breaking a habit altogether, and in a way its like learning all over again.

    Learn to not gave a cigarette every time you have a coffee. Don't light up after you've eaten a meal, just stopping the small things like that will make a massive difference in the long term and slowly but surely, if you don't quit completely you'll have certainly cut down a lot and that's a step in the right direction at least.
  19. henry

    henry Community Champion

    Yup, just like pork and beans. I like drinking, but if I don't have the smokes to go with it, I don't even consider it. So, if I quit smoking, I might as well quit drinking. I know that would be great for my health, but it sure doesn't sound like a lot of fun.
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  20. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    That's pretty much exactly how most people think, including myself. If we did everything we are told then there wouldn't be much fun in our lives. Stop drinking and smoking. Only eat healthy foods. Exercise at least 3 times a week,,there are many things we get told we shouldn't do but if you're a person that likes eating out, having a drink with your friends and socialising, take out all the things you like doing and you'd end up a very boring individual.

    You might live till you're 100 years old, but would you want that if you never enjoyed yourself?
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