Something that I was not able to comprehend for the longest time was realizing that the actual problem is not indulging in the behavior that is abusive. The actual problem is something rooted in the heart that has made its way to the head that has in turn effected the feelings from feeling good enough. Growing up the person never received the attention or love that they required. This place is the heart that longs for what it never received only gets temporary relief by taking part in these life limiting behaviors. The only way to heal this part of your heart that has been longing for what it so rightly deserves if by getting in touch with your inner child. Your inner child being the past self that still runs your life today mainly seen by the behaviors that aren't best represented by adult choices. To heal you must sit in your pain and not self medicate. The problem is that we see other behaviors that look healthy to us and are seen as healthy to others, when in reality they are just overly engaged in. We overly engage in everything that we encounter but dont realize at the core that we are still filling that void. The best way is to soul search. Soul searching is something so misunderstood and in the end the people who need it dont know how to begin. We are told to express how we feel but how the hell can we do that when we have been clogged up all our lives. The best first step is to gain clarity. Clarity is best gained when silencing the outside world and lasting to our inner world. Turn off the phones, emails, social networks, extra snacks, and sit. Sit in a room by yourself. Eventually your inner child will act up wanting to do something because the feelings are just to strong. That is when you will begin to make the most progress. After you gain clarity you will know what you feel. It will open up your heart and let you see what you are longing for. Just remember it isn't the substance that is giving you joy but rather the bandaid that temporary covers feelings that will never subside if you dont first find clarity...
This post is very powerful and one that a lot of people could benefit from reading. The best way to solve any rough times in life it is spend some alone time with you and your thoughts and do some soul searching. It is your journey and you have to walk it. You can gets lots of love and support but in the end it is only you who can make the changes needed to better your life.
That is very true, clarity about what the situation is plays an important role in the healing process. Many people have bottled up a whole lot of things but I would recommend another way of expressing yourself is through art. You could paint or draw what you feel; or you could write it like a poem or a rap. Some people do find it weird talking to a random stranger or their friends or family for fear of being judged, It's alright. But the most important thing is to express yourself.