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Scared for my son

Discussion in 'Heroin' started by forlucyslove, Nov 24, 2015.

  1. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Sorry to know about that. I hope your son will be able to convince her girlfriend to quit using drugs or your son will be strong enough to say NO to drugs. Right that it is a good thing that he is telling you everything and you can give him advice.
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  2. Mayoress

    Mayoress Active Contributor

    Wow! This is a really difficult situation for you and your son. You really have to take desperate measures to make your son realise that his girfriend is not the right person for him. You have to be really extreme about it. Make him realise that she could be the death of him and that he needs to let her go. She obviously doesn't want the best for herself and she is trying to drag herself down with him. She is your enemy here, so you need to do everything possible to get her out of his life forever.
  3. lost247

    lost247 Active Contributor

    your post sounds just like how my heroin use began. I tried a couple times to get clean but always got sucked back in. When I finally committed to rehab, I was actually in the facility with my using partner. He had been arrested and was required to be there, I thought maybe this was our chance to get straight. I took the treatment seriously, I moved about an hour away from where I was and into a recovery home when I left the hospital.

    My partner did not take treatment seriously. Within a month after I left and cut contact with him, I found out that he had pulled someone else into his using, and the kid overdosed in his room and died. I couldn't help think that could have been me.

    Your son is in a very dangerous and harmful place, but he must make the decision himself to severe his relationship with this toxic girl. I wish you both the best and hope he finds his way very soon, before it's too late.
  4. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    I hope things get better for you and your family, dealing with this kind of things is never easy. Just keep staying in touch with him as much as possible, don't make him feel judged or anything like that. just let him know you love him so much and are there to help him. I truly hope he can forget that horrible woman (I doubt she loves him, if she did she'd not try to drag him into that even more). I hope she leaves... that would be the best thing that could happen to your boy right now, if that happened he'd stop having that terrible influence in his life and would probably be able to start working on his rehab.
  5. TheWife

    TheWife Member

    Heroin has been the bane in my life for 20 years. Iam sad to say that both my Sons became addicted at a young age. I have begged, pleaded, locked them in the house, screamed shouted and even offered to take it myself after finding one of them with the needle still in his groin. Nothing made a difference to be honest. I did manage to get both to rehab but unfortunately it did not last long as in hindsight I realised that they did the rehab for me. I learnt the hard way that the only thing was for me to take a back seat. I tried to be there when they needed me and made sure they had food, even when the were not around me. It has been a long road but am happy to say that my youngest Son decided a year ago that he had had enough of living for his next fix. Unfortunately it has taken a toll on his health but he is now happy and actually in a good relationship with a young lady who has never used. He has been clean now for almost a year and Iam so proud of him. I was told many years ago by doctors etc that the descision to stop must be made by themself and not for anyone else otherwise it wont work. My advice is just to always be open with him about it and discuss it with him whenever he is willing to open up to you. You know the road is long as you say you are on a journey of your own. Your love is so apparent and I wish I could take away your pain. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that soon your Son can see a light at the end of the tunnel. Take Care
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