Many years ago, I told a friend, I heard her son was getting very involved with weed. She thanked me but assured me it was impossible as she was always searching through his things and had not once come up with anything. He was in his early teens at the time. I remember well that she joked and told me if I told her he had a problem with girls, she would understand, but never drugs. In the end the rumours where true and he's still very much into weed and I don't know what else. Obviously the searching did not reveal anything at the time. Is searching an effective means of finding out what's going on with our children. Is this something that you would encourage or discourage?