Ok so I'm having a problem with this guy I am seeing .. Any type of advice would be helpful. So, I just recently started seeing this guy. We will call him T-Rev. He is very good looking, has his own business that is obviously doing very well, or so it seems and he is intriguing with a pretty sexy personality most of the time. He dresses in the nicest clothes and loves to shop. And when we shop we spend thousands. He is sweet and respectful but he is highly addicted to synthetic marijuana (spice) and cocaine and alcohol. He smokes spice like cigarettes and it makes him rude forgetful and very wasteful . He blows ridiculous amounts of money on the same stuff flashlights, lightbars, cologne and of course the drugs and alcohol. He swears this isjust a little phase he can quit at any time but his trashiness is a real turn off. How can I help him realize this **** is killing him?