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Discussion in 'Other Substances' started by llfsa, Jun 26, 2015.

  1. llfsa

    llfsa Member

    Hi everyone!

    So I have a very high sex drive and even though I get to have sex w/ my girlfriend 3 out of 6 days, those 3 days where I don't get it I am extremely anxious and jumpy, to the point where I feel an almost uncontrollable urge to orgasm.

    It's gotten to a point where it's starting to interfere with my life and I am not able to focus on anything else.

    Has anybody experienced this?
  2. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    Well, to be honest with you and everyone here... I also have a high sex drive, as well, I like to do it daily and don't feel ok until I climax. But is not interfering with my life, I mean, I have gone without sex for very long, but when I have a stable partner I like to do it as often as possible, if we don't do it at least once everyday, then I might feel a bit odd, lol. But I'd not call that sex addiction, not in my case at least.

    But tell me, how old are you exactly? Are you in your late teens, early 20's or late 20's? Do you masturbate often? Do you watch porn? Have you felt tempted to have sex with other women? If you answer no to the last two questions, then odds are you are not really addicted to sex... but more to having sex with your girlfriend. Guys tend to have a high sex drive, think of sex often and want to do it almost all the time.
  3. llfsa

    llfsa Member

    I am 23 and I often masturbate, although I don't watch much porn any more. Temptation to have sex with other women is also something that never crossed my mind because I am extremely happy with my girlfriend and comfortable enough to ask her for just about anything. It's just something I feel should be under my control, but the more I think about it the more I see that this is just who I am and denying it just makes me feel worse.
  4. Tremmie

    Tremmie Community Champion

    If the idea of having sex to satisfy you ''sex addiction'' has never crossed your mind, then odds are isn't really a sex addiction. A sex addict will often have sex with anyone (whether they find them attractive or not) almost anywhere.

    Of course there are different degrees, but I'd not worry too much about it, it sounds to me like you just have a very high sex drive, don't worry, after a while it will stabilize a bit. At your age it's very normal to feel this way, just relax and take it easy. I also felt quite ''restless' when I was around that age, things calmed down when I turned 25 tho, for a man it might take longer.
  5. Damien Lee

    Damien Lee Community Champion

    Since you have a high sex drive, you have to choose to either live with this compromise of reduced weekly sex or look for it elsewhere. It's not necessarily a bad thing to compromise as your sex drive will drop as you age. I don't recommend that you cheat on your girlfriend as that will create problems for you that you don't need.

    Either talk to her and see if she's willing to have sex with you at least 1-2 more times per week. If that's not possible, reassess your feelings for her. If you truly love her, you should be able to live with this compromise. However, if that's not the case you should part ways and look for someone that is more sexually compatible with you.
  6. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    Some people have higher sex drives then others. It works best when you find another person whose sex drive is compatible with your own. I suggest you mention it to your girlfriend. She may not realize that you are not feeling satisfied. You may be surprised, she may be feeling the same way. You should be able to talk about these things with your partner and work out something that is satisfying to both of you. Good luck!
  7. LoyalServant

    LoyalServant Member

    I don't think sex interferes with my life, but I do catch myself daydreaming about it at times. I am happy I have found someone who has a very compatible libido. We do it was much as we can when we see each other, but sometimes go weeks without having the time because of our conflicting schedules. I have to admit, now that I think about it that I am a lot more irritable during those days.

    I've heard some crazy stories where people have to do it in public or in inconvenient people to continue on with their day. I wonder how much of it is true...
    -LoyalServant
  8. sonia11

    sonia11 Senior Contributor

    I think you just have a high sex drive. People who are addicted to sex generally go outside the relationship to get an ever increasing demand for it. A lot of times they need to be in some sort of risky situation as well (ie:cheating when the girlfriend could come home and discover them.)

    You're 23, though. I think you just need to watch some porn and jerk off on the days your girlfriend doesn't want to have sex.
  9. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    There's no need to worry here, you're young and it's totally normal to have a high sex drive. After a while you'll see that you won't feel the need to have sex 24/7, and instead start to enjoy the act and romance with your girlfriend. While you're at it, don't try to orgasm as quicky as possible. Instead, make it an unforgettable experience for the both of you! :)
  10. nieprophsono

    nieprophsono Member

    So you have problems with your potency or you have problems with your personal relationships with your gf? Because the way I see it, both of such problems you can solve with help personal talk with gf and if your relationships go a little further you can use viagra that helped us to make our sex even better. I remember when my gf had such problems like you. We did a lot of personal talk about it and we decided to take female viagra in Australia that helped us to strengthen our relationships and have a nice sex!
    Last edited: May 10, 2020
  11. bomjik

    bomjik Member

    How do I increase my sexual desire ?
  12. lovecraftXIX

    lovecraftXIX Member

    I remember when I turned 45, I became less excited, and I almost didn't want to have sex. I was advised of particular supplements, which made me younger by probably ten years. I'm just restless in bed. My man really enjoys it. Therefore, to solve this problem, you should start using supplements for female libidos, such as nutrispec. Products can range from creams for instant arousal to female libido enhancers without any drawbacks. It can bring a lot of health benefits and get rid of a lot of sexual problems. Before using it, it is better to study popular female sexual enhancers to be ready for the results.