My apologies if this subject is not allowed or approved of but for me this is a very real thing. I'm not addicted to sex per se because, quite honestly, I dont get much of it but if it was on offer I would do it every day and probably more than once. When it comes to porn, I look at it every single day without fail. It safe to say Im addicted to it and I think my brains idea of sex has been defined by the videos I watch. Sex is not always like those movies at all! Anyone relate to this?
"It safe to say Im addicted to it and I think my brains idea of sex has been defined by the videos I watch". From this phrase, I suppose you are a male, and I also suppose that you are a young male. I don't want to get my facts incorrect but I would believe that every male has watched porn in their life. From the 21st century began, the number of pornographic material has skyrocketed, so it has become more easily accessible all to. I think that you are only temporarily addicted; and I don't think you're addicted, I just think that you really enjoy watching that type of material. I think you give it a break after a while, I can tell you though, it will take a while, habits are hard to break.
From a family perspective, pornography has a bad effect on marriage in particular. When the man of the house is always watching porn, that may have an effect on his relationship with his wife as that is tantamount to infidelity.The wife is there to provide sexually for her husband and the porn movies may strain their relations in the bedroom.
Well this is an interesting topic. I do think porn can be a problem in a relationship. Your eyes start wandering about at other women because you're so used to seeing other women on a screen. Your view of reality can become distorted also. You'll start thinking certain things are acceptable when they're clearly not. Just tone it down some and put the energy into your partner. It's so easy to become desensitized to the real thing, so be careful.
Yeah, that's the thing, I could call it a phase but its a pretty long phase if that's the case. I'm talking 15 years of looking at porn. At the moment I'm not in a relationship but even when I was I looked at porn. Though you are right about being male and young (ish) - I'm 31. Will have to see how things go but it's not like it's causing a huge problem in my life. It's just something I do every day and only for a little while. Best to keep myself in check though!
On the upside of porn addiction, I read a few months ago that it has been correlated in studies that showed a decrease in the statistics for rape, violation, ravish, and other sex related crimes due to pron being more available to the public nowadays. So I wouldn't entirely bash on porn addiction, because places around the planet where it is prohibited or not allowed, people are more inclined to act out their insane sexual beliefs publicly. However, I do not recommend any plausible addictions for any human.
If you've been watching porn on a daily basis for 15 years, it would have obviously had a strong influence on your perception of sex and everything surrounding it. I have a suggestion: why don't you get in touch with others who feel that they are addicted to porn, and who would like to get away from it? I saw an excellent program on TV a little while ago, where a self-professed porn addict found help by joining a support group. In these groups porn matters are taken very seriously, as they can have a profoundly negative impact on one's life. Perhaps you might feel like doing a google search. Who knows, there might even be a group in your area. Or you might find an interactive site online. I wish you all the best!
I have been to the situation which you described. My minds are occupied with those porn movies even not watching them. I want to watch more because they can offer a kind of excitement which I cannot find elsewhere. They are so addictive. I spent quite a lot of time to recover myself to normal life.
There are groups for this kind of thing yes. Sex addicts anonymous, much like AA/NA/CA but I've not been to one yet. It's certainly something to think about because I am in active porn addiction I think.
Porn addiction can be something that totally affects the life of the relationship. I saw a movie recently about it (can't recall the name now, but it was a comedy and the guy gets "clean" at the end) that shows the difference that it can make.
Porn addiction is also as hard as every other addiction to overcome and with the triggers are all over the net, I'd say it's even much harder. They say that sex sells and with all sexual innuendos you'll come across the net, what follows would be hopping to your favorite porn site so you can see the 'real thing' rather than hear it hinted at. It's good that you realize you are a porn addict. You might find the site linked to below helpful: http://www.sexualrecovery.com/pornography-addiction/
I know this is a touchy subject for few of you, but porn can be looked at two ways. It can give you some great ideas to spice up your sex life with your partner or you can look at it like most people do in a negative way. Personally I can say for myself that I would be addicted to sex, but I look at it in a good way. I have a very healthy relationship with my husband, we're always try and out new things that we have seen in videos together he expresses his ideas, and I Express mine. So this honestly works out for the best on both of our perspectives in what we want. It's true I've seen some people take this in the wrong direction, there are those that would blame porn movies on having a negative impact on us. But honestly I really think it's hell person takes it they can bring out a very spontaneous and loving creative person in one's sex life. Or it can bring out the darkness and somebody, I personally think that porn videos give us are ideas on our true fantasies.
That's a fact jade, but in reality many people are not that "modern" or open to accept porn to spice up their sex life, in many couples it's a taboo matter. I don't really know how to feel about that, sex is great sure, but professionals of sex? Fishy...
I wouldn't say that I am addicted to sex but I do love sex. It has been a long time since I last had sex because of my own personal reasons but lately I have been craving it. I watch a lot of porn too because I like watching people have sex and listening to the sounds of moaning. I think it is just a normal male thing to watch porn because men look at it for different reasons. I am guessing yours may be because you do not have sex that often so you like to look at it because maybe you are horny. Like you said also, the sex you see on the videos is better than what you experience when you do have sex. You could be watching to get ideas to make your sex life better. If you feel this will develop into a serious problem then you may want to seek help but I think you are just being a typical male and there is nothing wrong with that.
I don't know if it's normal to watch porn even if anyone does it. It's like saying that it's normal to use drugs... Loving sex is one thing, but being an addict to porn is something completely different.
I think people do become addicted porn, much like they become addicted to other fantasy things. Do try to keep in mind that most of it is fantasy. Typical couples aren't usually found swinging from the chandelier doing all sorts of sexual acrobatics. I think it can become problematic, because it can change your view of sex and lovemaking. I suspect that it becomes even more problematic when you are in a relationship... unrealistic expectations are often what kills a relationship, so unrealistic expectations when it comes to sex can be quite damaging. If you really feel that you have a problem, it's probably a good idea to seek help/support.
Porn is degrading. You see so many people engaged in sex that any time you look at someone all you see is they are nothing more than sex objects. If you have a wife and watch too much porn do you think after all that she'd still be the cherished "helper" you got married to? Nope. You'd view her just as another of them models and porn actresses who you feel nothing for. http://www.askmen.com/dating/news/side-effects-of-porn.html p.s Anyone defending the watching of porn has yet to experience its negative effects.
I can relate extremely well to this. I have been using porn for about three years now, and I am addicted to it as well. There is just something strange about watching porn that makes it so addicting. In a way, I would compare it to someone from an isolated village walking around price chopper. Heaven on earth, but what it has to offer, be it porn or junk food, can seriously harm you. Junk food is obvious, porn is harmful because it can desensitize you to actual sex. It did for me. It has caused un-needed stress between me and my girlfriend. I wish I had known this would be an issue.
'true fantasies' - I read that, and it's like you're talking 'real pretending' Which sounds sort of normal (I 'pretend' conversations when I'm alone ... sort of 'imagining if I said what I shoulda said ), but it's dangerous to 'shift reality' like that when you don't necessarily remember (or even want to remember) to come back to real reality! And porn is a dangerous medium for that: it takes place in- and is watched in-an environment very-similar to the real environment people 'do all that' in, but the cinema edits-out laws of physics whenever they would really be an obstacle; and reality allows for no such editing! The 'taboo' stuff is partly what attracts the mind to intercourse like a moth to a flame, and porn could be said to be 'exploration of taboo-space'
That's true, at the same time we are also feeding a dubious industry where sex slaves and other illegal situations exist, so we should take that into account when considering to watch porn.