I think that doing sports or even being religious can be alternatives, the fact is that these days many people seek the immediate pleasure instead of other sort of activities.
You're right. I've heard many addicts say that they can stop anytime but if you told them to do it they wouldn't. It's why we are all our own best friends and worst enemies depending on how honest we can be with ourselves. If we acknowledge the addiction then there's a much better chance of quitting it.
At the rate in which our society uses sexual imagery, this is no surprise. Too much of anything is a bad thing. Sex and/or porn in moderate is actually good for you. Doing these activities daily seems pretty dangerous though.
IMO, this is a gradual process, taking both the will to move forward and to keep goals in mind. It carries discipline at heart and dedication beyond reckoning. So addiction is never the issue here, it is actually the player. It is like playing a game- if your heart is strong then you'd win.
I am somewhat lost with your post bourge, what do you mean that addiction is never the issue and the player is? We are addicted to watch porn or not right?
Then why does one get addicted into this porn? The issue here is the person getting addicted, not addiction itself. You get addicted to porn because? It's your mental perceptions, your imaginations, you.
Yeah, our mind leads us to see more. I get it now I think, you mean that there aren't any physical dependence right? I don't know about that, sometimes we just need it to get our system going.
Yeah, something like that lol. There are no physical dependence, call it like that. We cannot be celibate after all; that is just so out-of-the ordinary. However, depending on how you control your engagement in porn or sex decides your leaning/addiction to both.
I believe that some couples watch porn together and that might spice up their sex life, for me I never had that need and I am happy with my wife porn-free.
Lol, that's good for you. Some couples want to improve their sex lives because they have a 50-50 share of physical lingering. Some are focused on relationships and parenting more than that. I am choosing the latter option.
Yeah, from a certain point on parenting is something important and we need to realize what sort of example we want to pass on to our kids.
That's great. Most people never watch porn with their partners. In fact, many women hate porn and I've heard of relationships ending because the man was caught watching porn. It's seen as some kind of cheating. The fantasies . . . who wants to be number #2 in the life of the person they love?
Pretty much, that's how I think that the wife thinks and to be honest why should we resort to something that we don't need? It's a scary industry IMO.
How is it a form of cheating when there's no physical contacts involved? He is just watching a running clips of pictures. Men watch porn to fulfill their fantasies which remain fantasies in real life.
Basically we are spending our time watching other women/men instead of being with our partner, I wouldn't call it cheating, but it's absurd.
Well women are naturally jealous and porn stars, most of them, have finer bodies than most women. Because the pictures can be edited. And even if they aren't porn stars can have plastic surgery to make their bodies look even better. Why do men watch porn and try to pleasure themselves whilst watching the videos? Because they fantasize . . . need I say more? That's why I'd consider it a form of cheating because in their minds . . .
Yep, more or less like you put it Rainman, I mean, if we do have a wife or a girlfriend why do we need to resort to porn right? It doesn't make much sense does it...
Fantasies are normal though. You even have fantasies right? It's never cheating in that regard. Cheating is when he actually involves himself into a carnal act with another woman.
Anything that gives you anxiety, or makes you feel like that you're not living your life to the fullest or is obsessive, should be discussed here in my opinion. Also the foothold that porn has in today's society is a serious topic. I'm glad that someone was brave enough to post this forum, good luck SuphaflyUK.
I feel like 'an old fuddy-duddy'---Yes, I remember the days before I had had 'the real thing' enough to get tired of it ... There's a 'condition' known as MPS (Magic Penis Syndrome)---the misconception most young men have that women become slobbering puddles in the presence of a bare, erect schlong that they only want thrust into whatever orifices they can fit around it. And--as long as a man can 'suspend his disbelief' long enough to treat women like that while in the bedroom--the wife/girlfriend will be plenty enough. But man, eventually you treat her as an "equal" so much that you stop thinking of her as 'an animal in the sack.' And you realize that maybe you don't measure-up, start worrying about performance, etc. (I've never gotten this far in a relationship in real life ... oh, I've done the 'repeats of the one night stands'; but never 'moved-in with' any of `em. Plus, there's the matter of "physics." A porn-star is fine with 'whatever posture you want to assume' while "using" her---as long as you can reach your member, she's just as 'loving' as before! With a real-life woman though, you've got to conform your posture to hers (or vice-versa). And you have to 'plan' any changes-in-posture, whereas with the porn-girl you can change posture whenever you feel you should (much more-freeing than it sounds like).