I think that pleasure just brings more pleasure, so if I pleasure myself I am pleasuring my partner and if you ask me porn and MPS (lol?) don't enter in this equation.
Yeah, viewing porn when you pleasure yourself is like 'using closed-captions although you can hear just fine.'
I think that porn is not as bad as drugs or alcohol, but it's an addiction even so, so we need to realize that it's something that can harm our regular sexual activity.
Well yes people who are addicted to porn generally don't get much sex from another person. It is their replacement. It is a severe problem actually. Excuse my language, but to be blunt. A person with this problem needs help. You need porn more than a partner. You need it in order to get off. You can't live without it. It makes you feel alive. If you are with someone you need to watch it in order to be have any kind of sex with them. Your mind is always thinking about it and the porn reels are running through your head constantly. Every situation, every conversation you are focused on these reels. Your pillow talk is an audio of porn. Sorry for anyone else reading, but they were asking if anyone can relate. Read through this and think about it from a neutral point of view, SuphaflyUK. This is not an optimum state of mind and certainly not healthy. Perverts have been perverted thoroughly by a pervert. Usually it occurs in childhood and they were a victim at one time. It generally comes from severe sexual abuse having been inflicted. I am very sorry for that. You may not even remember it happening. One should have relationships and contact with another human being that is loving. Porn is exactly like drug or alcohol addiction. What was said above can easily be said about substance abuse. You can get sober from this addiction if you choose to. You can have a deep intimate loving relationship with a real human being. If you choose to do the steps and work. Watching an alcoholic ruin themselves and their lives is sad. Porn addiction is perhaps one that people think is ok to have. It is in actuality just as sad. I would imagine you have a ton of resentment towards the opposite sex and the porn is safe to you. You will figure it out. The first step with anything is admitting that you have a problem, so good for you. I wish you the best. Understand that if you love someone you are with your choice of porn over them will hurt them. Unless they have your problem and then you can be like alcoholics together. You will figure it out. Morvack; the strange addictive factor is that porn is the devil's work. Stress with your girlfriend; you are hurting her and it is like a form of cheating to her.
It is the correct language Adrianna, in fact I see porn as a replacement to sex, that is why it's very rare for me to watch it as I am married so I can have all the sex I want.
Who hasn't watched porn. I have in my younger days. Now it doesn't do me any good. The real thing is obviously better than the picture perfect world that they paint on the screen. I'm going to throw this out there and say that my porn addiction was more hormonal and age more then anything. Now that I'm older and have more life experience, I don't watch it anymore.
Well that's normal josh posh. I've certainly watched it too when I was younger. It was interesting to hear someone say that if you watch it a lot it de-sensitizes you to sex with a real person. It makes sense though. I don't have anything against it really or even the magazines. I think that my experience of it certainly made me realize how destructive it all is. Yes when you are married you certainly don't need porn. This is the way it should be. People that are married that are into it, well they don't have the big picture together. The things people do out of boredom. I always say that people who say, "I'm bored." are actually boring people. They look for over the top exciting things to do. So, it is great when people evolve in a good way.
I think if porn viewing is interfering with the ability to have a relationship with your spouse than yes , it is a problem. If couple's are viewing together and both enjoy doing so, then I guess that is part of their intimacy, a part both consent to. I am not sure how it could desensitize someone to sex though since its something that is viewed and not a physical act.. well, I guess yeah can be a physical act happening along with it, but isn't that different from physically being with another person? I think if anyone prefers porn and a "by them-self" session over intimacy with their partner than I think they have more to worry about and more issues to sort out than porn watching.
Not only that you mention Teresa, but also the fact that the industry in itself is degrading and we are feeding that industry instead of spending our time in something better.
Sex could either bring healing or the opposite. If you are doing it with the right one, then it's always the right time. I don't think there is such a thing as addiction to sex if you are doing it more than once to your husband or wife. As long as it is with the right person for all the right reasons, you're doing just fine.
As degrading an Industry as many consider it, The sex industry is an industry that is high up on the recession proof list. I mean the sex industry as a whole, porn, phone sex, escort service, prostitution. Does this mean there is a greater population of sex addicts that is realized ? What about those who work in the sex industry? Are they sex addicts? I suppose some very well may be, but I don't think that many of them would be addicted to sex.
Well, the fact is that many see it as a great way to make money, they don't realize the risks and they might get stuck in there for life, that's what I think.
You aren't addicted unless it starts to interfere with other aspects of your life. If you find yourself quitting your job, and blowing off your friends just so you can watch more porn, then you have an addiction, otherwise don't worry about it. Most people watch porn.
That is an extreme case fire and I agree that it's addicting like that, but to get to that situation it started slower, so we need to pay attention on that as well.
I have watched something about porn addiction before which is like a short documentary. It has bad effects like looking at women as sex objects or fantasizing on women that can be a way to disrespect women. Some are also engaging into sex on very early ages because of being exposed to porn.
True, if we have our minds filled with sex thoughts we look at a women and we don't even think of anything else, it's a sick way of thinking that can lead to bad actions...
I want to write so much here and yet I don't know where to begin. I know of a few people who are struggling with one or the other of these problems. A husband confided in me that he got too involved in watching porn as a result of being deprived by his wife. He claims it was his way of keeping himself happy, while remaining in a difficult marriage. In another scenario, a youngster believes he might be addicted to girls and sex but insist it's better than being addicted to drugs and alcohol. At the end of the day I am left with these questions. How do you help such persons? Do many even see it as it problem?
Well, being deprived from the wife is no excuse, will he use that as well to get an affair? If something is wrong in the marriage he should fix it instead of getting another class of problems.
I agree with you and in the case of the man, I can say that he made an effort to correct the problem and as far as I am aware made the necessary changes. As to fixing the marriage I believe that's a "lot of work in progress". Sometimes in life as this forum clearing demonstrates , some things are not that easy to fix even with the best of intentions.
Yeah, things are hard, but let's face it, when we put in our best efforts good things happen. And this is the main thing, being honest with ourselves and giving our best.