My family did something akin to total ostracization when I was using. The only thing I take today is Subutex. There's never been a homecoming, reconciliation or anything of the sort. My mother and father gave a free pass to my uncle when they found out he molested my brother. Yet, they want to sanction me for my drug use. Today, I would love to see nothing more than my father fall over dead of a heart attack. I have two brothers and one sister. I could care less if they burnt up in their homes. Be careful when you push someone out; as a remedy or final solution. You may find that even in their sober state, you can never get them back.